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My best friend in the world, is a male. He will be standing beside me on my wedding day as my best man/man of honor/whatever else!

I have a few things I haven't worked out yet;
- should he wear the same outfit as my fiances best man, and groomsmen? or should he wear something a little different to match my bridesmaids?
- Is it ok to call him my 'best man' on the program? or is that something that only the grooms 'best man' should be called
- I have him, and 2 bridesmaids; my fiances has a best man, and 2 groomsmen - how should we walk down the isle?

I'm looking for ideas, and maybe examples of how you've done it or seen it done...unfortunately I've never been to a wedding where the party was mixed, and its hard to find pictures on the internet

Thanks!!!

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    [QUOTE]My best friend in the world, is a male. He will be standing beside me on my wedding day as my best man/man of honor/whatever else! I have a few things I haven't worked out yet; - should he wear the same outfit as my fiances best man, and groomsmen? or should he wear something a little different to match my bridesmaids? - Is it ok to call him my 'best man' on the program? or is that something that only the grooms 'best man' should be called - I have him, and 2 bridesmaids; my fiances has a best man, and 2 groomsmen - how should we walk down the isle? I'm looking for ideas, and maybe examples of how you've done it or seen it done...unfortunately I've never been to a wedding where the party was mixed, and its hard to find pictures on the internet Thanks!!!
    Posted by nicolestreit[/QUOTE]

    1)  I, personally, would have him dressed the same as the other males in the WP.  You could add something extra if you wanted, to match the BMs, but it's not necessary.

    2)  We just listed everyone as Attendants, "Bride's Attendants"  John Doe,  Suzy Q, etc.  "Groom's Attendants..."

    3)  You could have him standing up at the front, along with the rest of the guys during the processional, or if you want everyone to walk up the aisle, you could have 1 girl escorted by 2 guys.  On the recessional, you could do the same - 1 girl w/ 2 guys or you could just have everyone walk by themselves and alternate leaving.

    Mixed parties are quite common around here :)


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    - should he wear the same outfit as my fiances best man, and groomsmen? or should he wear something a little different to match my bridesmaids?

    Your call. If it were me, I'd have the groomsmen in a neutral color (black, silver), and have your male attendant wear something (maybe a tie or a pocket square) in the color of your BMs' dresses. I wouldn't have him in a colored vest unless it's a dark, "masculine" color (wine, navy, brown). But that's up to you. Talk to FI about what you both want, and run it by your friend.

    - Is it ok to call him my 'best man' on the program? or is that something that only the grooms 'best man' should be called

    There are no rules when it comes to titles, so do what you like. Other options are Bride's Attendant, Man of Honor, or Honor Attendant. You don't even need to give them titles ... if he's the one standing next to you, most people will figure out that he's in the Honor Attendant role.

    - I have him, and 2 bridesmaids; my fiances has a best man, and 2 groomsmen - how should we walk down the isle?

    He can walk side-by-side with your FI's Best Man, or those two guys can walk solo and the other four can pair up as usual, or everyone can walk solo. Your choice.

    There aren't any rules, so so what works best for all of you and that'll be fine.
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    Well, tide and malphabet said everything I would, so read their answers again using my voice.  =)
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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