I'll try to make this as short as possible:
One of my really good friends was asked to be a bm in my wedding. A month later she got pregnant and we were both super excited. Over the past 9 months, she's slowly drifted away, but I've been understanding because she's in a different place in her life now, and I've tried to be there for her, and be supportive through every step.
In the beginning she was so excited for the wedding, talking about things, buying me magazines, and giving me ideas. But slowly that went away (again, no problem). But somewhere along the lines her manners went with it. A couple of examples:
She showed up to my bridal shower with her mom and two sisters (only she was invited). They sat, they ate (my mom was charged per plate), they left with favors. No thank you, no card, nothing. Considering I funded her entire baby shower, I would have liked a simple card. That would have been enough, I get that money is tight.
She didn't bother to tell me she wasn't going to the bach party. I get it, a brand new baby is here and from the beginning I let her know that I would never get upset over that. But really? You couldn't bother to tell me you weren't planning on showing up? I had to find out from her husband's fb post.
She didn't show up to her alterations appointment (that I paid for), and didn't bother apologizing. She wanted to get her nails done before the wedding, so I called, got pricing for her, and made her appointment. When I text her to let her know, her response was "Alright".
Through this entire thing, I've totally focused on her and the baby, never once imposing with the wedding. I've been entirely accomodating making sure she's comfortable at all times, and I havent even recieved the curtosy of manners from her. At one point I asked her if everything was ok, and she said it was so I dropped it, but she must be blind to not see that I'm upset. I'm not asking for anything, other than curtosy or to act like a friend.
Now I'm 11 days away, and writing super sweet thoughtful thank you cards to go with each of my bm gifts. But when it comes to writing hers, I draw a blank. I have no idea what to thank her for. And the thought of handing her a present makes my stomach turn. Help, what should I do?
