Bridesmaid

disneybride15

I want my sister to be a bridesmaid, but she attends Le Rosey during the school year.  Am I still able to make her a bridemaid even if she can only make it to a couple of the events. 
P.S. her school will be out during our wedding week.

Manwaithiel

Would you please stop posting specific information about other people in your posts and signatures? First your daughter's birthday, and now your sister's school. Honestly, woman, if you want to flaunt your personal details, fine, but don't do it to other people. I realize you have an "unlimited budget" and you want to show off that your sister goes to some expensive boarding school and everything else, but do it in a way that you're not putting people's safety in danger.

And Aerin's right, the only event they're required to be at is the wedding. Anything else is optional.

SSaltzman87

The only event she absolutely has to be present for is the Ceremony. The number of events she shows up at doesn't make her any less or more a BM than anyone else.

bablingbrooke

vixey

No she absolutely cannot be a BM!  The Official Guide for Unlimited Budget Weddings says that BMs MUST attend every single party that is thrown in your honor.  It's mandatory.  Even though she is your sister, you may not include her if she's skipping.  How dare she even consider missing something that is related to the biggest event in YOUR life?!?

Basically what I'm saying is that your life will be ruined and your marriage will be void if you ask her and she misses an event.  (sarcasm, obviously)

saisongbird

I haven't seen the previous posts, so I don't know what's up with the troll references, but one of my BMs lived 3,000 miles away, so she didn't attend the engagement party or my shower.  We scheduled by bachelorette for the week of the wedding so she could be there.  And yes, my marriage is still valid even though not every BM made it to everything.

lalap69

Yes, make her a bridesmaid.

audreykate

I read the posts on the link that jamierobyn submitted, and what I suspected was true.

Whether disneybride15 is telling the truth or trolling, bragging or being sincere, none of it warrants the responses that she's getting.

If she is trolling, she's clearly doing it for the attention, and her life is one that probably does not need another kick in the teeth. If she is a 13-year-old girl, her heart is probably beating like crazy and she'll be distressed. If she is sincere, she's naive and apparently very young.

In any of these situations, there is no need for us to be petty. Let's class it up a bit, ladies.

banana468

Audreykate, I'll mod the board thanks.

OP, I think you're going to get better responses if you don't name drop all the time.  If you're asking for honest advice, know that your sister only needs to be there for you for the ceremony.  The rest is a gift to you.

zitiqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:6e413ea7-6385-4dac-8192-9fcedaa0dd52Post:0f9781d8-0c68-4b7b-9e7d-9de1f2cc372f">Re: Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]I read the posts on the link that jamierobyn submitted, and what I suspected was true. Whether disneybride15 is telling the truth or trolling, bragging or being sincere, none of it warrants the responses that she's getting. If she is trolling, she's clearly doing it for the attention, and her life is one that probably does not need another kick in the teeth. If she is a 13-year-old girl, her heart is probably beating like crazy and she'll be distressed. If she is sincere, she's naive and apparently very young. In any of these situations, there is no need for us to be petty. Let's class it up a bit, ladies.
Posted by audreykate[/QUOTE]

Who died and made you the Knot police?

audreykate

Wow. 

Manwaithiel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:6e413ea7-6385-4dac-8192-9fcedaa0dd52Post:0f9781d8-0c68-4b7b-9e7d-9de1f2cc372f">Re: Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]I read the posts on the link that jamierobyn submitted, and what I suspected was true. Whether disneybride15 is telling the truth or trolling, bragging or being sincere, none of it warrants the responses that she's getting. <u>If she is trolling, she's clearly doing it for the attention, and her life is one that probably does not need another kick in the teeth.
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<strong>What does this even mean?

</strong><u>If she is a 13-year-old girl, her heart is probably beating like crazy and she'll be distressed. </u>

<strong>Huh?</strong>

<u>If she is sincere, she's naive and apparently very young.

</u><strong>So we should just coddle her? This is probably the wrong place if you're looking for that kind of treatment. </strong>
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</u> In any of these situations, there is no need for us to be petty. Let's class it up a bit, ladies.
Posted by audreykate[/QUOTE]

You're not the mod. In case that wasn't already clear.

Cynthia1207

Jeez I just read that thread.....  disneybride are you for real?  Who cares what school your sister goes to and to answer your question yes you still make her a BM if you want to regardless of what events she can attend.

and audreykate: disneybride deserved the answers she got since she asked for them.

jenn.daniel

My Matron OH may not be in the country on the wedding day.  I still asked her.  One of my BMs may be out of the coutry as well.  If either of them are able to make the wedding I'll be thrilled.  The important thing is that they're two of my closest friends.