I figured you ladies may have an answer/suggestions.
I'm in the processing of writing out our wedding ceremony. Since our reverend is currently in another state and has never met my fiance's family, he asked me to write out the full ceremony, including the processional/recessional, so he could get an idea of who would be involved and how. I have the seating of the grandparent's currently set as this:
FI's paternal grandmother, seated by his brother - the best man
FI's maternal grandmother, seated by his maternal grandfather
My paternal grandfather, seated by my sister - the maid of honor
My maternal grandmother, seated by my maternal grandfather
FMIL is angry that I don't have the maternal grandmother's being seated by one of our groomsmen (who are doubling as our ushers), and is insisting that etiquette says I have an usher seat all grandparents. Her version looks something like this:
FI's paternal grandmother, seated by D - groomsmen (friend)
FI's maternal grandmother, seated by E - best man (FI's brother)
FI's maternal grandfather, seated by K - bridesmaid (FI's sister)
My paternal grandfather, seated by M - maid of honor (my sister)
My maternal grandmother, seated by E
My paternal grandfather, seated by K
I think this is long, drawn out, and just plain annoying. But is it really proper etiquette? She's been bringing this up at least once a week since I haven't changed it yet in the ceremony layout, and FI is tired of being asked and so am I. Help me find a solution without telling her to go stick her head in the toilet?