Fi and I planned our wedding party over 6 months ago. We picked my sister and 3 best friends and he picked his brother and his best friend. We were a bit uneven, but I didn't care. I told him we shouldn't ask people just to fill the slots (right?).
Then we realized he really wanted his sister as well, so I suggested we add her as a groomswoman. He asked her about 3 months ago and she was thrilled (turns out she was a little bummed to not be included). So all is good, 4 on my side, 3 on his.
Yesterday, he says he's been thinking about it and he wants to ask his sister's husband to be a groomsman. The thing is, they live far away and he's only actually met her husband a few times (first time I met him was at the wedding last fall!). They did choose to include me in their bridal party (whcih I was shocked about!), but I've known his sister for MANY years since FI and I been together for over 10 years.
So I think FI's reason for wanted to add BIL is that 1) they had me in their party and 2) he wants the sides to be even. I think it is rude to ask him so late (he'll know it is an afterthought) and I dont' really want someone who we barely know in our party. I doubt he cares that he wasn't asked. But then I also feel bad since FI should choose his own groomsmen.
What do you guys think???
