OK So my flower girl is my future niece. I'm having issues with her mom and hope you can help. I always try to be quite reasonable but I think I'm being bossed around. I told the mom of the flowergirl they could pick out whatever dress but I would like ivory to match mine. She got one for free and it's white. Slightly disappointed but whatever.
Our wedding is on a Friday and they fly in late Wednesday night so the kids will be tired but they wanted a seat sale (the dad is a neurosurgeon so it's not like they don't have money but I understand flights add up). But now she's using her kids jet lag as an excuse for everything. The evening before the wedding I scheduled manicures but was told she couldn't attend as that will be too late (7 pm her daughter is 8). Yet I know they will be attending a family dinner that night that will probably go much later.
Now the day of the wedding I arranged for the hairdresser to come to the house. We were going to have brunch get our hair done and go to the church. She says she will do her daughters hair herself and bring her to the church.
After the ceremony I have rented a limo to take us for pictures and we were going to stop at McDs for a quick bite as I'm sure we'll need food before the ceremony.. She is saying that her kids will not last for pictures neither will her son (ring-bearer). She wants us to cut the photo time so that her husband(groomsman) son and daughter can go back to the hotel and sleep. They will have a long night and don't want to be tired because they are going for another family dinner with her mom the next night.
I'm hurt because I keep trying to include her daughter in the pampering and fun stuff but they keep saying no to everything. I didn't even complain that the dress was white because I knew her daughter really liked the dress. Are my hurt feelings justified?