Ok, I iwll try not to make this too long and I hope i do not come off as sounding like a bridezilla or a diva.
I worked for a company for 3 years and during that time I became very close with one of my co-workers. I used to refer to her as my work spouse. I left the company in June to take on a position that was a promotion. She remained there.
Now, I made two mistakes when I got engaged. One, I texted my work spouse. She in turn told everyone at the office I got engaged before I got in that Monday. Basically she stole my thunder. Fine, no big deal. I was a bit hurt but, OK. The second was at the time, I asked her to be in the wedding.as a bridesmaid. Little did I know she would turn on me after I left the office.
Since I left she has trashed my work, has canceled on lunches and happy hours (she lives 25 miles away and I would have to make the trip to her); she has accused me of trashing her husband's business (he works for a Toyota dealership owned by a large conglomerate and I complained on FB about the Nissan dealership under that conglomerate's umbrella), and accused me of being a drama queen for being upset over vandalism done to my car due to the bumper stickers I had on it. Lately, she won't even answer my emails.
So here is the thing, I am about to launch our wedding website and she is not listed in the wedding party. I would still like her to attend the wedding but, after her actions I really do not feel she should be in the wedding. I can't seem to get her to respond to me so I can talk to her about this woman to woman. What should I do?