Tacky way to choose a best man?

kymjune

My fiance is having a difficult time deciding between two of his buddies to be the Best Man in our wedding, so he wants to give them each a questionnaire type thing to decide. Is this tacky?

vannymuse

Yes, I think it is. It would be better to have 2 best men or none at all, than subjecting his friends to a questionnaire.

stina93446

Definitely tacky. Have them both be best men.

frogurt814

I wouldn't say tacky as much as I would say hurtful.  If one of my friends gave me and another girl a survey to decide which one of us would be MOH, and the other girl "won" I would be really hurt. 

He should either have to Best Men or none at all.

tpender13

Yes. Maybe decide on who it would be less of a burden to? FI and I are only having a best man and MOH. It was between his best friend from high school, or his best friend from college who he currently works with. High school friend lives a few hours away, would have to buy a suit, and figure out what to do w/his two girls since he's more or less a single dad. So FI went w/college friend who lives in town and wouldn't have to buy anything special to wear.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't say tacky as much as I would say hurtful.  If one of my friends gave me and another girl a survey to decide which one of us would be MOH, and the other girl "won" I would be really hurt.  He should either have to Best Men or none at all.
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]

This.  All of it.  If I found out that a friend of mine was having a questionnaire to see who should be her attendant, I would answer with, "Nevermind, she can have the position.  I didn't know I had to jump through hoops for this."

megk8oz

Tacky. Incredibly tacky.

Manwaithiel

You're kidding, right?

quotequeen

What could possibly be on this questionnaire that would help him decide?  The BM should be the person he's closest to - a form is going to dictate that??

He can have two BM, or none.

jenn.daniel

Yes, it's tacky.  They should have a duel instead.  just kdding.

lalap69

I don't think the questionnaire takes it far enough - have you considered tryouts?  Maybe some kind of field test?

kathrynhabibti

Would your FI be okay with having to "test" for the position? Two best men, or none.

mysticl

What kind of questions would he ask?

If he really only wants one BM just flip a coin.  Then the guys never have to know how he picked. 

bablingbrooke

He should ask them both.  You should not be involved in this at all.  You should remove the word "tacky" from your vocabulary until you understand what it means.

wph961

Is your fiance a robot? Because if so then I don't think we should be judging by typical "human" emotional standards, and the word tacky doesn't really apply.