Looking for a wedding party role for a 15-year old girl

hollyhopes

Hello!  I am planning to get married in about a year or so.  For the past three years, I have tutored a young girl who will be almost 15 by the date of my wedding.  I would really like to include her in my wedding party, however she seems to be stuck in the middle, to to speak; too young for a bridesmaid and too old for a flower girl.  We already have a flower girl (she's 8) and all my bridesmaids are in their mid 20's.  I've heard of people having junior bridesmaids, but would it be strange to just have one?  I don't know any other 15 year olds besides her.

If you have any ideas about a special role I can have for her, I'd greatly appreciate it.

Thanks!

Holly

DontesMommy

My little sister will be 11 at my wedding and we have asked her to be a junior bridesmaid. She will be the only one, but we paired her up with my fiance's cousin, who is 9 and will be a junior groomsman I don't think it will be strange to have just one at all! Besides, its you're day so you can do whatever you want!

katieanne85

make her a bridesmaid, junior bridesmaid doesnt mean anything its all the same really, you may just need to find a more modest or age appropriate version of the dress.
Bridesmaids dont need to do anything except stand up wearing a dress, I would have loved to do that at 15

or have her do a reading, this could be especially touching if you have been tutoring her on reading, it would show how proud you are of her.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]Hello!  I am planning to get married in about a year or so.  For the past three years, I have tutored a young girl who will be almost 15 by the date of my wedding.  I would really like to include her in my wedding party, however she seems to be stuck in the middle, to to speak; too young for a bridesmaid and too old for a flower girl.  We already have a flower girl (she's 8) and all my bridesmaids are in their mid 20's.  I've heard of people having junior bridesmaids, but would it be strange to just have one?  I don't know any other 15 year olds besides her. If you have any ideas about a special role I can have for her, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks! Holly
Posted by hollyhopes[/QUOTE]

<div>How on earth is she too young to wear a dress, walk down the aisle, stand quietly for the ceremony, and smile for pictures? If she can handle that, you have yourself a perfectly awesome bridesmaid. She could alternatively read a meaningful reading as previous poster suggested.</div>

stina93446

bridesmaid!

mbcdefg

A "junior bridesmaid" IS a bridesmaid. There's absolutely no difference ... each role consists of wearing a specific dress (age-appropriate for her, of course ... some BM dress designers make Junior versions, or have an adult's dress altered), walking down the aisle and posing for photos. If you think she can handle all that, ask her to be a bridesmaid.

You do not need to ask a young man to be a groomsman just to escort her, or to match up the sides so they're even ... it's perfectly appropriate for an adult groomsman to escort her (it's not a date or anything), or for her to walk alone, or for one groomsman to escort her and another bridesmaid if your sides are not even.

If you're having a Catholic ceremony, she could bring up the Communion. We had a charitable donation/Gift to the Poor as part of our ceremony and I asked my cousin to bring that up, so that's another option.

Or just let her enjoy herself as a guest (would you be inviting her parents along so that she has someone to sit with?). And have the photographer take a nice photo of the two of you, and maybe give her a framed print later as a gift.

bbyckes

Bridesmaid or junior bridesmaid.  And how is she too young to speak at your wedding?

MyNameIsNot

15 is old enough to be a bridesmaid.  

I wouldn't call anyone over 12 a junior anything.  She's old enough to do everything BMs do, get a dress, walk up and down the aisle holding a bouquet, stand quietly during the ceremony, smile for pictures.  Giving her a "junior" title is condescending at her age.