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Talk some sense into this little girl.

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  • marissa_clairemarissa_claire member
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    Did she XP?  I think I answered it somewhere else saying.... it would benefit you and your groom, but would be RUDE to your guests.  I think an early wedding would benefit everyone getting married, right? I'd love to join benefits and assets earlier, but I'm getting married because I'm in L-O-V-E not because I need health insurance.
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  • marissa_clairemarissa_claire member
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    Weird, maybe it's a regional thing.  I know none of the Catholic churches around here consider you to be married unless you were married in the church.  
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Whatever the case, biitch doesn't get two weddings.  It's ridiculous.  It sucks that she "has" to get married legally, but that's how life plays out sometimes.  She can get married, go on her HM, and take that money she would have spent on the wedding and put it toward something else.  Plus she won't look like an AW.  Win-win-win.
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  • TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    It sounds like there's a legal reason, not a religious one.  I was thinking immigration, and someone in the thread mentioned military issues.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Catholic churches don't consider a civil marriage valid (as in, not a sacrament), but it doesn't mean that they don't consider it legal.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Even if there's a legal reason, that's the hand she's been dealt.  She needs to play it.  
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  • marissa_clairemarissa_claire member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:f544eb9b-22d0-40c5-9c73-87ef9972de9e">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]Catholic churches don't consider a civil marriage valid (as in, not a sacrament), but it doesn't mean that they don't consider it legal.
    Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yep - this.  They still consider you to be living in sin, at least that's how our priest explained it to us.</div>
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    LOL, I think immigration is the one area where even the E chicks are ok with a princess day as a second wedding - though it's still a vow renewal.

    Apparently if you get approval to marry someone out of the country, you find out and then have like 30 days to do it or you're screwed.  But still a vow renewal.
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    It doesn't sound like a church thing - she mentioned talking to a lawyer.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    No she just said it's an immigration thing.  I guess I'm a cynical old married hag who thinks you should just get married and begin living together, not getting married and then planning the princess wedding that you couldn't have the first time.  But that's just me.
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    Retread,

    In this case it doesn't sound like an illegal alien issue.  I know I've seen it elsewhere on the boards (and I wasn't kidding, this is one area where the E chicks let up on the "no two weddings!" rule), but apparently if you're marrying someone from out of the country, no matter what country, INS gives you the OK and you have 30 days or something to get a license and get married.  You don't know when or if it's coming.

    So it's the one instance where it's less of a choice (as opposed to military or insurance issues) and more of a necessity to move fast... so it's the one instance where the bride & groom really just can't get a venue, flowers, photog, etc and plan a huge shindig with invitations & RSVPs in a normal time (which means people who have to make travel arrangements would just be screwed)...

    In that case, the only "choice" the bride and groom have is a quickie marriage or no marriage at all... which is why it's the one instance where I've seen the "rule" relaxed for people who want a vow renewal with the big poufy white dress and all later on.
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    And wow, sorry for how repetitive that was.  I won't even try to go back & fix it.  I'm sick as a dog and doped up on god knows what at this point.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Retread, OP in that thread mentioned that she spoke with an immigration attorney, and LD is an attorney, so maybe they have a bit more information on the subject than you do.  You don't automatically get citizenship, but the way I understand it your visa status changes and you can stay longer.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I don't understand how people can file all the paperwork to be married and then say, "Oh...but we're not really married."

    Clearly you wanted SOMEONE to consider you married.  You just don't want EVERYONE to consider you married.  Sorry but it doesn't work that way.


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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    Seriously, I have been fighting this same uphill battle for about 2 weeks now on the military brides board and I just want to scream.  I can't stand that on there that the girls (and I say girls because many aren't even 21 yet)  think they are entitled to a second wedding because they have to go to the JOP for the first one and are getting cheated.  And I absolutely hate the response "its your day, screw etiquette and do what you want."

    Immigration is one area where I will take a little step back on the issue.  But this girl isn't trying to get him into the country.  He's already here, just living 3 hours apart. 
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:0ae57176-63e5-49a9-bd30-02bf12d9ac90">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't understand how people can file all the paperwork to be married and then say, "Oh...but we're not really married." Clearly you wanted SOMEONE to consider you married.  You just don't want EVERYONE to consider you married.  Sorry but it doesn't work that way.
    Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
    Amen.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    WTF Retread?  You snap at me and others at seemingly every opportunity.  I call you out when you say something objectively rude, or when it flatly ignores what someone says, or when it's one of your canned responses that does not really address the issue at hand.

    I've been more polite with you than you deserve lately.  So stop.  You aren't a member of the bar, and neither am I, so I was merely pointing out to you that it might be a good idea for us to defer to the experts on the subject.  Take a freaking chill pill.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    I don't really understand what your age has to do with anything. 
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    Retread, you're absolutely right that immigration is a huge issue that doesn't always work the way people think it does, but this chick's said she's seen an immigration attorney and this was actually his advice.

    dnbeach, are we sure the guy's in the country?  The chick's in Houston, and I'm no expert on Texas geography, but couldn't her FI then be in Mexico?  How far is Houston from the Mexico border?  Or did she say he was in the States?

    Keep in mind, I've spent a total of 45 minutes in Texas, and that was 100% in the DFW airport.
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    You're right.  Different states means he's in the US.  Then I don't think it's the same thing as a normal immigration issue where the guy can't be in the country & get married except for in that crazy tiny window.

    This sounds like he's already here on a different visa and in danger of being sent home before they get the wedding planned.  At that point, they should just continue planning their big wedding but move it up to 6 months earlier.
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    ... unless there's something else preventing that that I don't know about.  I'm a lawyer, but not an immigration lawyer.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    She said his visa is through his job, so he has to keep working there to maintain that visa, and the job is 3 hours away.  So they want to get married by the JOP so that he can have a visa through her and move with her, so he isn't tied to the job.  You know, have the perks of being married, but "they won't be married."

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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:cad39e1a-0f5a-406f-9cf2-46d9c23271cb">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]She said his visa is through his job, so he has to keep working there to maintain that visa, and the job is 3 hours away.  So they want to get married by the JOP so that he can have a visa through her and move with her, so he isn't tied to the job.  You know, have the perks of being married, but "they won't be married."
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
    So it's like I thought...they want to shack up and go on vacation.  So not an immigration issue.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    Pretty much.  And they are using immigration as an excuse.  I'm sorry, I see her situation no different than someone living long-distance who couldn't quit before their wedding.  Uh, me and my H, perfect example.  We didn't live together or in the same city even until after our wedding.  And according to half the military brides, I so could have just married him early to collect the extra BAH so we could live together.

    Seriously, I have an evil voice inside of me telling me to find out information about all these fake second weddings so I can send their friends FB messages saying that they are already married.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:cad39e1a-0f5a-406f-9cf2-46d9c23271cb">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]She said his visa is through his job, so he has to keep working there to maintain that visa, and the job is 3 hours away.  So they want to get married by the JOP so that he can have a visa through her and move with her, so he isn't tied to the job.  You know, have the perks of being married, but "they won't be married."
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]


    Hm. I must have missed that part entirely, or was it in a different thread? I don't understand people, SMH. And I don't think she really understood what I was telling her either, but whatev. She wasn't looking for advice. She wanted to hear from the people who would say yes and play it up.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    "My fiance is from another country.  This solution was suggested to us by our immigration attorney.  We have been living in different states for the past 2 years and 8 months.  Due in part to his visa status and in part to economic conditions, we are unable to find employment within the same city.  A legal marriage would transfer sponsorship of his visa from his employer to me, thus allowing him more employment options.  He could then find employment in the city I currently live in and we could live together."

    It was towards the bottom of the first page.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    And we are all left to wonder why she can't move to be with him...
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  • LD1970LD1970 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:ba4a4dd1-95f7-4f9a-9ef2-117ce07fcdf9">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]And we are all left to wonder why she can't move to be with him...
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
    Well, that could easily be lack of job opportunities, either in her field or in general.  Maybe she's really established in a great position where she is.<div>
    </div><div>But yeah, I was reading this all in a much more magnanimous light than it deserved.  My mistake.</div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    Wow now I just want to hit someone.  I've never gotten so worked up by what one person posted. 
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_headdesk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:82474352-4342-4ee9-8703-352ad2563b7fPost:a2fa395e-843a-4f90-afb5-af2c3fcd1d6a">Re: Headdesk</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow now I just want to hit someone.  I've never gotten so worked up by what one person posted. 
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
    You and me both.  I would have given a finger to be able to live only 3 hours away during DH during the first year of our marriage, and I bet you'd be willing to give a lot more for the same.
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