BM dress crisis!

stahlop

So, it's 2 and a half days before the wedding.  Everything has been going smoothly.  Some wrinkles with the tuxes, but those have all been worked out.  And then, it happens.  One of my BM's calls me hysterically crying.  I'm thinking, her husband was in an accident.  One of her kids is hurt.  No, her seamstress told her she could pick up the dress today and she went to pick it up, and they're closed, until Monday!  I told her to calm down and we'll go to David's Bridals on Saturday (the day before the wedding) and see if we can find something there (that's not where we got the dress, but they are probably the only place that will have something in her size on the rack).  I told her she could wear anything, as long as she was there at the wedding.  She's actually a lot more stressed about this than I am.  I'm not going to go all bridezilla on her and kick her out if she's not wearing the same dress as everyone else in the WP (my cousin did this, to her own sister).  We are hoping beyond hope that her seamstress checks her store messages and we can get the dress still.   Wish us luck.

emilykathleen511

Oh gosh, that is too bad! They had better be graveling and give a full refund later, since it was THEIR mistake!

Major kudos to you for taking it in stride! Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials; your wedding day will be perfect if you keep up the awesome attitude!

I think your ideas of just finding something for her to wear is a good idea...I hope you can find something without too much stress!

liz745

Wow...I would be so mad! not at her of course just at the seamstress. I hope that your friends can get her dress or get her money back. Good for you though for being such a good friend!

aerinpegadrak

Does your BM have a contract with the shop?  If she has it in writing that she could pick it up today, then pretty much any judge in the country would award her a refund.  Even if she doesn't have a contract, you've got a pretty good case for a refund.  I might suggest going to a department store, but because it's the day after Christmas, they will be absolute zoos, and that should be a last resort. 

Perhaps she could just wear a black dress, and get a sash in the color your BMs are wearing?  Again, that could be a last resort, because you could just go to Joann's or another fabric store, find something suitable, and throw it in a sewing machine to hem it.

Kudos to you for keeping calm.  This is one of those things that no one would blame you for freaking out a little over, but keeping it in perspective is really admirable

stahlop

I think the fact that I thought someone had died due to her hysterics made the fact that it was her dress a little less crisis-like.  I mean, yes, the whole situation sucks, but I didn't ask her to be my BM because of a dress.  I've known her since we were 12, so I just want her to represent at the wedding.  I hoping that David's Bridal will have what we're looking for.  They have a similar style dress (in fact, we almost got that dress when I was a BM in her wedding) that could work. 

lyndausvi

Well that sucks..

Good for you with just going with the flow.  The important thing is you and your FI getting married, not a BM's dress.

stahlop

We're going tomorrow to see if there is any way we can get into the shop or can contact this woman at home.  If not, then it's David's Bridal.

stina93446

Sorry to hear about this mishap. Hope you find something else that works. 

banana468

Good for you to go with the flow.  Hopefully you can find something that she loves on short notice!