I have been friends with this girl for about 4 years and throughout the time I have known her she has been The Star and I have been the looked over Sidekick. At times I felt resentment towards her when she would shamelessly steal the show but most of the time I recognized that that was simply the person she was and if I wanted to be her friend I would have to deal with everything constantly being about her.
When I got engaged, she seemed happy for a few minutes and then began to tell me what she wanted for her dream wedding when she was not engaged. When we once discussed what the bridesmaids would carry down the aisle, I mentioned that I liked the look of fans. She shot me down and informed me that bouquets are a must. She demanded to know why I have such a small guest list and then proceeded to ramble about how important the wedding day is. When I tried to defuse her and say that I feel that the marriage is more important than a big party, she got annoyed. Ever since I broke the news, she has tried to turn it into her idea of what my wedding should be. She committed to dress shopping a month in advance and a week beforehand informed me that she and her boyfriend were going on an impromptu vacation. I was annoyed but it wasn't a huge deal. Today I get a text saying "hey we're engaged but not officially and I want to know if you'll help me make favors and invitations."
I am more than happy for her, but I wonder if she remembers that I have my own wedding to plan and that while I am supposed to be helping her with her favors, etc. I should also be doing my own? I feel tired of playing second fiddle to her because that has been the story of our entire friendship. Because of this, I have not discussed my wedding with her in a few months and she seems perfectly content to talk about herself. Am I being ridiculous?