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no bridesmaids or MOH but 2 groomsmen!

I had chosen a friend of ours to be my MOH(she would have been the only one) to be my MOH, but something has happened and she can no longer be there for me. I don't have anyone that I would choose to be up there with me but my fiancée wants his two brothers to be with us on the altar. What would you suggest I do to make it seem less unbalanced and still give the brothers a good role.I wouldn't want one standing on my side, looking like I chose to have a male MOH, I am not very close to his brothers and  my step sister would probably feel excluded. I have no clue what to do now.

thanks for any suggestions.
We are both very traditional and I need to make this work.

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    Just have an uneven wedding party and don't worry about it anymore. There's no reason to ask anyone you don't want in your WP to stand by you, and  there's also no reason to tell your FI he can't have anyone standing on his side.

    It will be fine. Lots of people have uneven wedding parties.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-moh-but-2-groomsmen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:870b2f7d-5dbf-4b1d-9f7d-ef8583765a93Post:cb53717e-299c-4e38-8d19-34b792beaf3f">no bridesmaids or MOH but 2 groomsmen!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I had chosen a friend of ours to be my MOH(she would have been the only one) to be my MOH, but something has happened and she can no longer be there for me. I don't have anyone that I would choose to be up there with me but my fiancée wants his two brothers to be with us on the altar. What would you suggest I do to make it seem less unbalanced and still give the brothers a good role.I wouldn't want one standing on my side, looking like I chose to have a male MOH, I am not very close to his brothers and  my step sister would probably feel excluded. I have no clue what to do now. thanks for any suggestions. We are both very traditional and I need to make this work.
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    Do you have any men that you are close to - father, brothers, cousins, close friends?   WPs are about the people that love and support you standing up for you on your wedding day, not about symmetry.   
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    edited July 2010
    I have no one I am close to that I would want to stand by me. No guys/girls/friends/nadda. I know it's not about symmetry, but I would be embarrassed to have two on one side and no one on mine.I would never tell my fiancée not to have his brothers up there, I was thinking that they could follow him up the aisle (escort him) and each of them could carry one of our rings then once the vows start they could fall off to the side. We are not having any flower girl/ring bearer either so ... I don't know.
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    That sounds good.  Each of them with one of the rings.  Whatever feels "right" to you.  You're smart not to ask people just for symmetry.
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    What about your mom or dad?
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    Your wedding is 11 months away.  This isn't something that needs to be, nor should be decided right now.  Weigh your options.  Take some time and think about it.  Don't rush into anything.  We usually tell people to wait until about 8 months out anyway.

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    OP, don't feel embarrassed to not have anyone standing on your side. If you can't think of anyone - like Tide suggested, your mom or dad, or maybe an aunt/uncle/cousin, etc. - don't feel like you need to have one or be embarrassed that you don't have anyone standing on your side.

    Have you talked it over with your fiance to see what he would like his brothers to do? You could have his brothers stand with him as groomsmen at the beginning (carrying the rings like you want them to), then have his brothers sit down during the ceremony. That way it would be just you and your fiance standing. When your officiant needs the rings, they can get up and hand them over and be seated again. Then when the ceremony is over, you and your husband will lead the way out, with his brothers following behind.
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    Ditto the others.  If it gets to the rehearsal and you're still feeling concerned about it, have his brothers seated for most of the ceremony.  Or you could have one brother stand on each side, and just list them in the program as "attendants," or somehow make mention of them standing for both of you.  (Edit: never mind, went back and saw that you didn't like this idea)

    But you still have 11 months.  Who knows, between now and the wedding you could meet someone and become close enough that you'd want them up there with you.  There's ages to decide.
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    I think it would look very strange for your FI to have 2 GMs and you have no one on your side. I know you said that you aren't close to anyone but I think you should find some BMs.
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