Bridesmaidzilla!

lindsaymari

Okay girls...I need your help here.  I really only wanted to have my sister as my maid of honor...however, I caved and asked my younger half-sister and my best friend.  I really only did this to avoid hurt feelings and drama.  Well, my friend is trying to control things!  I've already told her what color I want for the bridesmaid dresses, and she's tried several times to talk me into something else.  Also, she's being controlling about us going to the same place to get our hair and makeup done.  This is going to be a fairly simple wedding, and I'm trying to do things as easy as possible...I don't want to end up blowing up on her, but how do I let her know nicely that she can call the shots when it's her wedding?!

kellyb1487

Just say thank you for your opinion we will take it in to consideration then change the subject and do whatever you want.

Just make sure you keep everyone's budget in mind for the dress chioice, but it is your wedding and you should get to choose the color, just try to be careful in not dictating the exact dress (not everyone looks good in everything)

Also for the hair if you are saying you have to get it done or specifying where they need to get it done, you should pay for it. If you are leaving it up to them if they want to have it done each one could choose their own place or do it yourselves. In this case if the friend keeps trying to get everyone to go to one place, just sit down and mention that everyone is on different budgets and you are not going to make anyone proffessionally get their hair done unless they want to.

Manwaithiel

She can't force you to get your hair/makeup done at a particular place. You can't force her to do the same. Problem solved.

You shouldn't have asked someone that you didn't really want. Now that you have though, there's no going back.

They should get some input about the color. They have to buy and wear the dresses. They should at least like them. Since if you can't find something else. There's only 3 of them, it shouldn't be too difficult. Make sure you ask each girl individually for their budget before you go shopping.

bablingbrooke

Keep an open mind on the dress color.  My BMs suggested a dress color that was completely different than what I had in mind, but it looked so much better on them that we went with it.  Not saying you have to change it, but would it hurt to try it on and see how it looks?  If you decide you don't like it after all, you don't have to go with it, but I don't see the harm in entertaining it for one try-on.

On everything else: "Thanks for the suggestion, sis."  Then change the subject, preferably to something that gets her talking about herself.

Belle2Be

I second what Brooke said.

saisongbird

Ditto Aerin.  Ultimately, it is your decision, but do consider if she has a legitimate complaint or if she's just trying to change the color because she doesn't like it. And for everything else, bean dip, bean dip, bean dip.  And don't talk about the wedding with her.

mrstfuture

It is your wedding and your decisons.  You are not asking anything out of the ordinary that any bride would do.  If you want a particular color in a dress then they just need to deal.  I had dresses picked out from a certain designer in a particular color and length.  Well one of my bridesmaids tried to change the color and designer and the other tried to change the length.  Stand firm for what YOU want, and remember that there is always a nice way to say something and a not-so-nice way.  I would recommend the nice way.  I agree that you should not dictate hair and makeup, and if you do you pay for it, but you also should not have to decide on a dress color based on the skin tones of everyone in the wedding party.  What matters is what you like.  Ever see "27 dresses"?  Now there is someone who knows how to be a bridesmaid/MOH, granted extreme, but she knew that it was about whatever would make her friends happy, not what she wanted.

I am so frustrated with my entire bridal party that I really wish the state would allow my cat to be the Cat of Honor.  She would do so much more than what is being done right now.

Can I pitch Bridesmaid-zillas to Bravo?  Great concept!!

redheadtmk

could you possibly stick with the color but change the shade? as in you want blue but compromise on the shade of blue? if not then stick to your guns. its your wedding and it should be your choice.