Bridesmaids

mbroude

I need to think of creative ways/ a cute idea to ask my bridemaids and MOH to be in my wedding in May. Anyone have some stories and ideas to share about how you asked your girls?

tldh

Why do you need a cute and creative way?  Just ask.  I can tell you that if a friend did anything more, the one thing I'd be thinking is, "If she went overboard with this, what is she going to be like with the rest of the wedding and are we still going to be friends at the end of it?!?!?"

SIL was my MOH and the extent of my side of the WP.  She came to the bridal salon to see my dress and I told her to pick out whatever she wanted to wear, (as long as it came in red) because she and her husband were going to be the WP.

Also, it is very ill advised to pick a WP until about six months before the wedding.  Hang out here long enough and you'll see why. 

trix1223

From a response that I wrote below:

First:  don't EVER ask everyone in a group.  If someone really can't accept the honor of being in the WP, you've put them into a terribly awkward position. 

If they say "Sorry, I can't" they've ruined the excited "squeeeee" moment.  If they say "yes, thanks" so as not to ruin the moment,  but have to renege later, hurt feelings happen. 

As for how to ask?
Asking someone to stand with you doesn't have to be a big, fancy, unique, manufactured moment to be meaningful.  It will be meaningful solely because of what you're asking.  So you don't need something cute and clever.

Realize that the wedding industry will have you believe that everything between now and next May must be some kind of production.  That's so you'll spend $$ on cards, flowers, gifts, cookies shaped like dresses, boxes of chocolate with wedding bells on top, and more.

Will you friends be any less thrilled about your asking if you give them a cutesy card with a cheesy poem or a cookie shaped like a bridesmaid dress?  Probably not.  Just ask them.  That's what makes it special.

The honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.

And actually, I think if your wedding is May, 2011, you're within the window of asking now, so call your friends and ask.  Take them out for a cup of coffee and ask.  GL.

bablingbrooke

I lived on the other side of the country from them at the time, so I picked up the phone and asked.  One of them currently lives out of state and recently asked me to be her BM; she did so via email.  The last time I was a BM, I was also asked over the phone.  Common denominator: I was honored to be asked and didn't care how I was asked.  Not everything related to the wedding has to be a ceremony or production in and of itself.  If you need help from strangers in coming up with a cute way to do it, that's probably a sign that you shouldn't. 

SeptemberFall2011

My wedding is scheduled for a holiday weekend.  So I called/texted/visited in person my bridesmaids and asked if they had plans over the holiday weekend.  When they asked why I wanted to know Id tell them Id love for them to be my bridesmaid or whatever I wanted them to be and they loved it.

megs2011

When I asked my wedding party, I just asked them. Most of them I asked in person. I have 1 MOH and 6 BMs. 5 I asked in person and 2 I asked over the phone. It's hard enough to get out "Would you like to be part of my wedding party" because you're nervous you'll get a "Sorry I can't" let alone thinking up some extremely creative way of doing it.

Long story short, Just simply as them.