I went to Cosmetology school with this girl almost 2 years ago (she just turned 18, I'm 28) and she now works at the same salon as I do. We went out to lunch a few days after I got engaged (we would do it on a weekly basis, so it wasn't anything special). She caught me off guard and started rambling about what color are our dresses going to be? Where do I tell people you're registered? My grandparents own two hotels in the area I can get you a deal...on and on-and I was just in shock. She automatically assumed she was in my bridal party-I hadn't even asked my two best friends who I've known since 6th grade to be in my bridal party yet. I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I'm frustrated because I don't want to stir the "sh*t pot" since we work together. But lately she's been telling me that she's going to get wasted at my wedding and was laughing about it. I did tell her that I would be giving the bartender her picture and that if she even tried to get a drink I would have her thrown out-she thought I was joking. Less then two days later she was telling me how she's started smoking weed and that she's been coming to work high. I don't know what to do-I've tried reading all the etiquette on this subject-and basically it seems like I'm stuck. My fiancee is really unhappy because he wants me to be able to have a good time while I'm planning the wedding, he doesn't want any problems from her at the wedding, and he wants our wedding to be about us and not worrying about her causing a scene. Some of my friends have told me to just tell her to "f*ck off" but I just can't do that because I'm not that type of person and because we work in the same salon. Does anyone have any suggestions? I need the advice. Thank you!