MOH Dilemma!

hkb18

I need advice!  I don't know who to choose for my MOH.  Me and my best friend have been friends for 13 years.  Although we have been friends for a while, our lives do not allow us to spend as much time together anymore.  We are still close, but I am MUCH closer to my sister-in-law.  I have known my sister-in-law for 14 years and she has been married to my brother for 8 years.  Me and my sister-in-law are very close now and we spend lots of time together.  I only live 5 houses away from my brother and sister-in-law so we see each other all the time.  In my heart, my sister-in-law should be my matron of honor, but my fiance says my best friend should be because I was her MOH in her wedding.  Im also scared that if I choose my sister-in-law, my best friend will be mad and will not want to be in the wedding.  Please help!

libby2483

It sounds like you really want to ask your SIL, which is what I would do if I were in your shoes.  Just because you were a MOH in someone else's wedding, does not mean they need to be a MOH in yours.

mbcdefg

If your best friend ends your friendship over this, then she's not a real friend. Another option is to not have a MOH at all, if you want.

mdeidre

I had two MOH at my first wedding, it can be done.  Or just ask your SIL since you're closer to her.  I would hope that your other friend wouldn't get mad at something like that.

msuprincess04

If your friend isn't married, you could have a Matron of Honor and Maid of Honor.

kaitlyn&henry

why not have both? I had two because i had two friend i could not choose between...BUT you dont have to ask your one friend because you were hers.

jomate

I am in the same boat. I don't know how to choose between my sister and my best friend. I never see my sister because her job has her in another province (a 3 hour time zone away) but she is my sister.
My best friend lives close to me (in fact in my house at the moment) we spend a lot of time together.
I am intrigued at the idea of 2 MOH's how would this work?

mbcdefg

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_moh-dilemma-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8a8ab396-2ff3-46e3-9a49-b4c076689605Post:7877e6d0-ba48-4068-ad57-a27710e54874">Re: MOH Dilemma!</a>:
[QUOTE]I am in the same boat. I don't know how to choose between my sister and my best friend.<strong> I never see my sister because her job has her in another province (a 3 hour time zone away) but she is my sister. My best friend lives close to me (in fact in my house at the moment) we spend a lot of time together. </strong>I am intrigued at the idea of 2 MOH's how would this work?
Posted by jomate[/QUOTE]

It doesn't matter where they live or how much time you spend together. Who are you closer to emotionally? That person is MOH ... if you really can't choose, then have two or none.

Two Maids of Honor ... split the "duties" between them: stand next to you at the ceremony, hold your bouquet, fluff out the train on the altar area, sign the certificate as your witness, give a toast at the reception. You can have the Best Man escort both of them at once, or he can escort one for the ceremony and the other for the reception introduction if you're doing that.

MOH isn't obligated to throw a shower/bachelorette, but they will likely get together on their own and figure out how to handle this. Your job is to stay out of the planning and not ask for any parties to be thrown for you. Only get involved if they ask you for a guest list and a list of dates when you are free. Otherwise, don't get involved.

They are also not obligated to help you with the planning for the wedding. If they want to help, they will volunteer.

sbelle85

I have a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor. I had two best friends and didn't feel comfortable choosing one over the other. It's worked out really well.