So I am having three attendants: my three sisters. For awhile, I was considering having five and asking my FI's two sisters to be the other two. However, I decided against this for a bunch of different reasons including not knowing them well at this point, wanting a smallwedding party, not wanting a heavy workload for my mom since she's sewing WP dresses and ties, etc.
Anyway, so my FI and I discussed it for a few days and I asked him if he though his sister's would even want to be BMs if I asked. He thought they would.
Anyway, so during the days while we were still thinking about having five, he actually called the oldest of his two sisters and told her that I was considering asking her to be a bridesmaid to see if she would want to. Apparently, his sister said that she certainly hadn't expected that but if I asked, she would love it.
When my FI told me he'd asked, I was a little taken aback but oh well.
I will meet this sister for the first time at the wedding and my FI asked her to sit at the guest book table if she wanted and she said yes. I'm not sure if I should say anything to her about not being a bridesmaid. I don't know if she will bring it up or not. I kind of doubt it because I have chatted with her on the phone and heard my FI's end of phone conversations with her and I'm pretty sure she's not the type to be petty and I'm sure that we'll become pretty good friends.
I'm thinking that since I never talked about it with her, the best thing to do is pretend that the conversation between her and my FI never happened and just never mention it. What do you all think?