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I have about 8 girls I would like to ask to be in my wedding party...but my groom only has 4. So we've settled on 4 and 4, which I am okay with. But...I'm curious is there are some ideas out there on how to somehow honor those 4 other girls without them being in the party (besides doing readings or guest book)...just a little something to privately acknowlesge them...let me know if you have any ideas!! Thanks!

Re: Intimate wedding party...Question for you!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_intimate-wedding-partyquestion?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8e811dcf-f68f-477b-b126-abec225bdabfPost:7328e8b0-965f-4e0e-9d9b-8ac53699e0f6">Intimate wedding party...Question for you!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Question... I have about 8 girls I would like to ask to be in my wedding party...but my groom only has 4. So we've settled on 4 and 4, which I am okay with. But...I'm curious is there are some ideas out there on how to somehow honor those 4 other girls without them being in the party (besides doing readings or guest book)...just a little something to privately acknowlesge them...let me know if you have any ideas!! Thanks!
    Posted by Tine422[/QUOTE]

    How about... guest?
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    edited July 2010
    No.

    I would suggest a reading if you don't want them in the wedding party. All the other usher/guest book/program jobs are BS pity positions.

    If you want to ask them than do it. Uneven sides are very common. Also, you will have an even # so they could stand 6 and 6 on each side. Still "even." What is more important having even sides or having the friends you love and cherish standing with you?
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    I like when ziti comes around.
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    edited July 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_intimate-wedding-partyquestion?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8e811dcf-f68f-477b-b126-abec225bdabfPost:7328e8b0-965f-4e0e-9d9b-8ac53699e0f6">Intimate wedding party...Question for you!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Question... I have about 8 girls I would like to ask to be in my wedding party...but my groom only has 4. So we've settled on 4 and 4, which I am okay with. But...I'm curious is there are some ideas out there on how to somehow honor those 4 other girls without them being in the party (besides doing readings or guest book)...just a little something to privately acknowlesge them...let me know if you have any ideas!! Thanks!
    Posted by Tine422[/QUOTE]

    The fact that your FI only has 4 on his side is irrelevant. Ask the number of people you want on your side. Whether that's 4 or 5, 6, 7, or 8 is up to you. But don't pick 4 simply on the premise of feeling like you need to match him.

    Readings are nice - we had 2 readers in our ceremony (DH's sister and SIL). So that would be something to consider but if you really don't want to go that route...then I have to echo ziti - guest is absolutely an honor as well.

    *** Guest book attendant is not an honor...besides, if your guests need to be instructed on what to do with a guestbook then I'd have to doubt their intelligence.
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    I'm with ziti.  Either they're all in the WP or they're guests.  Trying to find a made-up "something" just never turns out well.

    Personally, I'd recommend that if you absolutely can't imagine choosing only 4 women, have uneven WPs.  It's just fine.  For the recessional, each lucky GM gets to escort two beautiful women.

    Having said that:  8 people sounds like a lot to me.  Who would you call to pick you up when your car broke down at 3 am?  Who would you call if you needed someone to take you to an emergency room at 3 am?  Those people are your WP.

    Finally, google uneven WP's.  You'll find plenty of pictures to show you how nice it can look. Please don't make this decision based on a random number.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    Ditto PPs, don't make up fake jobs for people.  I decided that one of my besties had too much on her plate to be a BM (by that I mean I was worried about her getting the dress and showing up on time) so she's doing a reading for me. 
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    I picked 7, FI picked 6.  He wanted to do 6, but I didn't want to choose.  So I picked who I wanted.  We're having a big formal wedding, so I am fine with having a lot of girls, and I could care less about even sides.
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