When to send?

tkddddddddd

Our wedding is August 25th and we are getting our invites ready. When do we send? I have seen a lot of places that say give 3 months before the date. Is that "right"? What about the RSVP? Our caterer needs final count a month before the date but won't we need to allot time to call down non-responders? Thanks for the help!

artbyallie

I will never get why some caterers want exact numbers 30 days out. That's just completely unnecessary, since the food certainly  shouldn't be bought more than a few days out at most anyway.

But it's supposed to be 6-8 weeks for invitations. For August 25th, the earliest you should send them is roughly June 25th. Allow a few days between the RSVP date and whenever your caterer needs the numbers so you can call anyone you don't have a response from yet. If your numbers are due July 25th, have the RSVP date July 21st or thereabouts. Wait a day or two for cards sent on the due date to arrive, because lots of people do that. Then call.

tkddddddddd

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[QUOTE]I will never get why some caterers want exact numbers 30 days out. That's just completely unnecessary, since the food certainly  shouldn't be bought more than a few days out at most anyway. But it's supposed to be 6-8 weeks for invitations. For August 25th, the earliest you should send them is roughly June 25th. Allow a few days between the RSVP date and whenever your caterer needs the numbers so you can call anyone you don't have a response from yet. If your numbers are due July 25th, have the RSVP date July 21st or thereabouts. Wait a day or two for cards sent on  the due date to arrive, because lots of people do that. Then call.
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I get it - staffing and cooking. A wedding of 100 will take an extra staff member and more time to prepare (I.e. another employee) than a wedding of 75.

Thanks for the help though!

bonge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_when-to-send?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:95244e0b-0917-405c-a8f4-9cdcf541cf0bPost:0dc30120-e21d-402c-8677-cf6e1176610a">Re: When to send?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: When to send? : I get it - staffing and cooking. A wedding of 100 will take an extra staff member and more time to prepare (I.e. another employee) than a wedding of 75. Thanks for the help though!
Posted by tkddddddddd[/QUOTE]

<div>That is still bs, my mil is a caterer & she can do it with a week ta 2 weeks notice. It is just some bs they come up with so they can get more money from people who give them a # then more people decline as something comes up & they are now locked into that #. </div>

shortangel1982

my wedding is august 25th, and we are sending them 3 months prior, our hall wants a month notice as well, especially since we have a big guest list.  but maybe things are done differently here then in the states.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: When to send? : I get it - staffing and cooking. A wedding of 100 will take an extra staff member and more time to prepare (I.e. another employee) than a wedding of 75. Thanks for the help though!
Posted by tkddddddddd[/QUOTE]

I call major BS on this as well.  A venue trully only needs a 2 week notice.  A month is ridiculous because they won't even order the food needed unitl a week out.

aragx6

In your case I'd probably send them at 10 weeks, which is arguably a little early but you'll need RSVPs back so soon that this is probably your best best. I'd set the RSVP deadline 5 weeks in advance, wait a day or two and then start calling.

KJeffs

My venue also wants a final count 30 days in advance. We are getting married June 30th and sent our invites out April 27th with a due date of May 25...still waiting on most of them

QueerFemme

I think 3 months early is way to early.  10 weeks tops.  If your venue needs a month (which I agree, is total BS), send them out 8 weeks in advance.  Regular US Mail only takes about 3 days.  People will have the invitation by the 7 week mark, and still have 3 weeks to reply or for you to follow up.