Cousins as Usherettes

kcornwel

Me and my fiance will be having 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen, who are our friends and siblings, 1 flower girl who will be 3.5 at the wedding, and 2 ring bearers, 5 and 6 y/o.

We both have female cousins, 3 total, that are a few years younger than us (high school and college age) that want to be, and we want them to be in our wedding party. We've decided to have them be our usherettes since we have exausted all of the boys we know to fill that needed role ( we have 200 guests). All three are fine with the idea, like being involved and love the fact that they get to wear dresses that coordinate with the wedding.

I am planning on sending my wedding party a formal note asking "will you be my....?(bridesmaid,flower girl, etc) even though ive already asked them ( letters are just so much fun!). How should I word the letter for the usherettes? I would like to treat them the same as everyone else, but saying "will you be my usherette?" sounds kinda weird and anticlimactic....

Any cute ideas?

Thanks!

bablingbrooke

Cut the pomp and circumstance and just ask.  Not everything has to be a production.

aerinpegadrak

I would just ask them to be "ushers", which is a gender neutral term.  "Usherettes" sounds like they're going to form a kickline down the aisle or something.

You've already asked them, so I would leave it at that. 

chocoholic4life

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_cousins-usherettes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:98399bd3-0619-47a6-85b6-ce37e1ca7afcPost:fb7ddd0f-e562-4587-94e9-2b4f2f1ecc42">Re: Cousins as Usherettes</a>:
[QUOTE]I would just ask them to be "ushers", which is a gender neutral term.  "Usherettes" sounds like they're going to form a kickline down the aisle or something. You've already asked them, so I would leave it at that. 
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]


Haha, I thought the same thing about the kickline!  Then I looked up the word...unfortunately it's real.

trix1223

I think the term "usherettes" just sounds lame.  Call them what they are:  ushers.  I much prefer gender neutral terms that made up words that emphasize gender.

As for how to ask:  just call them up and ask.  You can start now by remembering that not everything about your wedding has to be artifically cute, clever, unique, memorable, or "special" to be meaningful.'

Finally, just let them wear whatever they want to wear.  Please don't make them get a special outfit just to hand out programs.

DavidandAmyClark

I was an usher for my grandma's wedding, with my sister and two female cousins.  We all wore black dresses and we loved it, because my sis and one cousin already owned dreses,  I bought an new one and its my go to LBD, i definitely wear it over and over again. 
So my advice is let them wear what they want, or just matching color like black or blue and go with that..  Usher is gender neutral.  Just ask, if you want to ask in a card you can or even an e-card .... I think thats okay  but it doesn't need to re-invent the wheel .  My primary mode of communication with extended family is email or snail mail .