We just recently picked our WP, and my FI chose his 3 best friends from college as his groomsmen and his best friend from high school as his best man. He has one brother but they don't talk. He's had trouble with alcohol and other drugs since high school, and has stolen from his family members to support his habit. After years and years of this my FI no longer speaks to his brother, and hasn't for 3 years.
Well through the family grapevine his brother has learned about our engagement. He also found out about FI's best friend being best man. He called FI yesterday and asked in his really typical semi-pleasant semi-self-righteous way why he wasn't best man. It ended up becoming this blow-out fight and FI broke it to him that he wasn't even invited. His brother went and complained to their meddling mother, and now she's calling and bugging FI to have him in the wedding! FI keeps saying "no way" but she never seems to hear "no." It's just not in her vocabulary.
FI is adament about not having his brother at the wedding, and of course I support him. I've seen how his brother treated him and how it tore him up. But I was hoping to avoid this sort of family drama. And it's funny how after 3 years he comes out of the woodwork and expect for everything to be fine and forgotten. I just hope this is the end of it and neither he nor their mother pushes it further...