Are you obligated to include people in your wedding party just because you were in theirs? A (then) close friend of mine got married while we were still in college, and I was a bridesmaid. But of course, people drift, and we haven't spoken more than once or twice a year since graduation. I can count on one finger the times I've seen her since then. If I ask her to be a BM, it's going to be more because I feel guilty and I'm afraid it'll be a slap in the face if I don't. Help?