A story from my friend

frogurt814

As promised, I'm deleting OP incase friend stumbles upon this thread.

banana468

You should ABSOLUTELY suggest to your friend that she go on TK.

And I'd also be honest with her about the bad ideas in a nice way.

bablingbrooke

Is she normally like this or is this new?

Manwaithiel

What winners.

Send her here. *wicked grin* We'll give her a good lashing.

bablingbrooke

I do want to threadjack and brag that my friend, who is getting married next year, is having friendship problems with another friend of ours (we're both BMs in my friend's wedding) and how she feels sad that she thinks the friendship is kind of running its course.  Did she once mention how this might impact the wedding?  No!  She is focused on how to possibly rehabilitate the friendship, or debating whether it can't be saved.  Not talking about how to boot this girl from the WP or complaining that this girl isn't into wedding planning.  Love my friend!

frogurt814

Brooke, that's awesome about your friend!  It's nice to know that at least one bride out there has her priorities right.

bablingbrooke

Thanks!  I also want to mention that she has a 3rd BM, who is getting married two months before her at the same venue, with pretty much all the same vendors, and a lot of overlap on the guest list.  She couldn't be happier that she has someone to help her plan, bounce ideas off of, or coordinate (collude?) on getting discounts.  None of this "stealing-my-thunder" crap.  They're excited--been friends since they were 5 and planning their weddings together.  I think they would have had a double wedding if they could

frogurt814

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_story-friend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9c3639ce-a052-47b8-a0b8-025ef7be8f0bPost:452845cd-3b2a-4b8b-8e18-e23062e5f961">Re: A story from my friend</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I would kindly suggest to your friend, as someone who's been through the wedding process, that she ask her BMs for budgets and consider what will make them comfortable, etc.  <strong>You're willing to dish out advice to complete strangers, but won't help prevent your friend from possibly alienating hers?</strong>
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]
Good point!  Like I said, I was just so overwhelmed at the time that I wasn't sure what to say.  I'm sure I will see her soon, and we usually end up talking about wedding stuff so I'm sure the topic will come up again.

There's not really much I can say about Guestbook, because Guestbook actually sees it as an honor, so even if I convinced friend that Guestbook is a crap job, Guestbook attendant would still want to do the job, and would probably be offended if Friend rescinded the offer.

saxy414

Oh boy--you're right about not knowing what to say when someone actually does this in real life.  That's happened to me, and I feel really dumbfounded--like, "these people actually exist outside of the internet?" 

But now you're prepared, so hopefully next time you talk to this friend you can point her toward the light. :-)

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_story-friend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9c3639ce-a052-47b8-a0b8-025ef7be8f0bPost:1eb4fc8d-45de-47cf-8a1d-245c4768ab7e">Re: A story from my friend</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A story from my friend : Good point!  Like I said, I was just so overwhelmed at the time that I wasn't sure what to say.  I'm sure I will see her soon, and we usually end up talking about wedding stuff so I'm sure the topic will come up again. There's not really much I can say about Guestbook, because Guestbook actually sees it as an honor, so even if I convinced friend that Guestbook is a crap job, Guestbook attendant would still want to do the job, and would probably be offended if Friend rescinded the offer.
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]
Yeah, if Guestbook wants to do it, well, more power to her I guess!

And I can understand being caught off guard.  But I guess if it comes up again you can mention something to her. :)