I'm getting married next week on Saturday, very excited!! I have 2 bridesmaids and my MOH--which is my soon to be sister in law. I've been very close to her for years and considered her a great friend of mine. I would do and have done anything she has ever asked me to do with no questions asked but I feel with all the wedding madness happening, we can't seem to be on the same page.
Let's start with picking out dresses. I figured I could get my mom and the bridesmaids to meet and help me pick out a dress and have dinner. I knew one of the bridesmaids couldn't come so I figured my mom, the other bridesmaid and the moh would be enough. I set the appointment late for the dress fitting because the moh told me she would get out of work early. I called her the whole day and she never picked up. I didn't talk to her until later that night and she said she couldn't make it because she couldn't get out of work. I wish she could have given me the heads up before.
#2 My fiance and I agreed we wanted the wedding party to be small and we didn't need a flower girl. The day I went to go pick up my dress from the boutique, I take my MOH with me and her 7 year old daughter. On the car drive there, my niece asks me if she can be the flower girl, and I said no. I turned to my MOH and asked her "Did you put her up to this to ask me?' and she slightly shook her head yes. I now have a flower girl that I didn't want in the first place, but since her mom talked to her about how imporant this is, I just can't tell her no.
#3 My bridal shower was a disaster. One of the bridesmaids originally wanted to throw this party for me. I told the MOH and she suddenly got jealous and said she wanted to help because she felt left out. I gave her the phone number for the other bridesmaid to plan and she didn't call her until two weeks before the party. I had given her addresses to mail out invitations the beginning of the month and I found out she didn't send out the invitations until a week before. Long story short, she didn't come ontime to help decorate (I had to decorate for my own bridalshower) and she still had to pick up the food. We agreed there would be no kids at this party, she still brings her 7 year old daughter. I kept getting phone calls that day that said" I'm so sorry I cant make it because I dont have a sitter" and" I didn't get the invite in enough time to plan" . No one came except my mother, the moh, the bridesmaid hosting the shower and my 7 year old niece. I was so angry and embarrased.
#4 My 2 bridesmaids have told me that they have their dress. I text the moh-- she said she will get her dress next week!! And she wants to know how everything is going with decorating the flower girl's basket. I want to tell her don't worry about what I'm doing because I have all of this under control, you need to worry about yourself and get your crap together.
#5 She tries to invite people to the wedding that my fiance and I don't even know!! When I tell her no, she gets upset. So when it comes to my mother in law asking for invites, she gets defensive and says, " I don't know mom, you need to talk to the bride and groom first because they are really strict about who they invite." I told my fiance to call his mother and let her know she can invite whoever she wants to. It's different in maintaining the relationship with your mother in law then it is with your sister in law.
I really feel like she is blowing a lot of things out of proportion. I haven't really talked to her since the bridal shower. I just feel like the wedding day might be a disaster too.