Honorary Bridal Party- Destination Wedding

pnk2013

My fiance and I have decided that its best we dont have a bridal party.... it would have to be about 20 people. Asking people to trave to Mexico from NY is asking plenty, and asking them to get dresses and all that would be silly. Besides the fact half our audience would be standing up. haha.
Id like to recognize people I would have chosen, how I can do that?

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I have decided that its best we dont have a bridal party.... it would have to be about 20 people. Asking people to trave to Mexico from NY is asking plenty, and asking them to get dresses and all that would be silly. Besides the fact half our audience would be standing up. haha. Id like to recognize people I would have chosen, how I can do that?
Posted by pnk2013[/QUOTE]

You can't.  Honorary members of a BP are people who could not be at the wedding usually because of deploymnet, death or illness.  Guest (especially at such a small wedding) is an honor in itself.

kmmssg

Agree with GLB.  Being a guest is an honor.  Trying to make something up out of the wind to look like an honor isn't.  Guest is a good thing.

aerinpegadrak

We had a DW with only about 40 guests, and we still had 10 attendants.  (We asked them when the guest list was much bigger.)  The balance of it worked out fine.  We asked the girls to wear any black dress, and had we not been going for a specific look with the guys, we would have probably asked them to just wear any black suit or something like that.  Some of our attendants didn't spend any more than they would have just to be guests.

So if you want a WP, it's doable.  But the entire purpose of a WP is to stand next to you during the ceremony.  If you're skipping that part, you're skipping a WP.  It's fine to just have them be guests.

mcskatcat

I would just not have a BP or have just a MOH/BM if that's what you want.  But I would not make half of the people in attendance honorary BP members.  That's just silly.

ems27

The wedding I was in, the only people who remained standing at the front with the couple were the BM and myself (MOH).  If you'd be happy having them all get a certain color dress in whatever style they desire, you could do something similar, and just have the majority sit down in the front, if you were worried about half your guests standing.

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]The wedding I was in, the only people who remained standing at the front with the couple were the BM and myself (MOH).  If you'd be happy having them all get a certain color dress in whatever style they desire, you could do something similar, and just have the majority sit down in the front, if you were worried about half your guests standing.
Posted by ems27[/QUOTE]

I'd be more concerned with how hurt and insulted the other guests could become at that point.  If they are not going to be standing members of the WP they would essentially be singled out as very special guests.  That would have the rest of the guests going "WTF am I then?"

Summer2011Bride

I think you can do a WP or not, but I wouldn't do any "special guests" or honorary WP or anything. Being asked to be a guest at a wedding, especially one that is rather small to begin with, is an honor in and of itself. You could also just ask an MOH and best man if you each have someone particularly close to you that you would like to stand up with you.