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Head Table/Sweetheart Table

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FI and are planning to have about 100 people at our wedding, he will have four GM and I will have four BM. We were thinking of doing a sweetheart table but including my MOH and his best man... would that be weird? Has anyone else done this at their wedding or plan to? 
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    If the MOH and BM have dates with them, they need to be included at the sweetheart table, too.  Otherwise I think it's fine.  Newsflash: Guests are not at all interested in how you choose to arrange yourselves to eat so long as they get to sit and eat too.
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  • stina93446stina93446 member
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    A sweetheart table is for you and your FI only. If you add BP members, it's a head table. If you have a head table, the proper thing to do is to let your bp members sit with their dates. It's rude to separate dates. 

    Either have a sweetheart table alone, or have a table for 6 so that your MOH and BM can sit with their dates.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    If you have your WP (any of your WP) sit with you then their dates need to be included.  Think of it as, if you were their MOH wouldn't you want you DH sitting with you.  If you want to do a sweetheart table, just leave it as you and your DH.  We did this and it was the only time DH and I had alone with each other all day.  If you want to sit with someone then consider sitting with both sets of parents and have a family table.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Whatever you do, just include the dates.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    Just to clear up -- MOH and BM do not have a S/O as of now, if they do they would obviously be invited and included at the table as well.

    I have been to several weddings where the BP sat at the head table without their dates... I always thought that was weird.
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  • JenO24JenO24 member
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    heres the link to a thread in customs and traditions about this very topic...it'll give you some more opinions :D

    http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_sweetheart-table-vs-head-table
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Bear in mind anything that comes from TK's "customs" pages...just take them with a grain of salt.

    mandi, I think you've got a good plan in place.  But you've got 20 months to go until the wedding.  This can be placed on the back burner for awhile.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Whatever you do, just don't split established social units.

    As a guest I don't really care where the bride and groom sit.  I only care about seating arragments if I'm split from my husband.  That's just flat out rude.  Period.
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  • kelle017kelle017 member
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    Every wedding I've been to the bp/dates are always split up.  Maybe that's just a local thing, but I hate that.  Especially if you know no one other than your date and maybe the bride and groom.  It's just plain awkward, and everytime it happens I just keep waiting for dinner to be over so I can get up and talk to my date.
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