NWR: Grrrr...

aerinpegadrak

Okay, so DH turns 30 next year on July 2nd.  I want to throw him a big party, and because he's such a nut for the ocean, I wanted to do something at sea, ideally a weekend cruise over to Catalina Island.  Since he works for Frito Lay, getting any time off that close to Independence Day is right out, so I figured we'd do it the next weekend.  No big.

Well, his cousin messaged me to ask me about our wedding officiant (we got her dad ordained to do the ceremony, she wanted to know about doing it for another family member), and to get our address for their STDs.  Oh, and their wedding date?  July 8 in Tahoe.

Grawr.  So now I have to figure something else out.  Maybe we'll drive down to Vegas and meet some friends, maybe we'll try to arrange something up in Tahoe that weekend...  I don't know.  I was just getting really excited to do something big for him, and it just got more complicated.

bablingbrooke

Why not give him the tickets/surprise him on his birthday but take the cruise a week or two later?  You'd get to celebrate twice!  ETA: My birthday is tomorrow and if DH gave me a card with an itinerary for a trip for us a month from now, I'd be ecstatic, even if it meant having to wait awhile.  I'm sure your DH would feel the same?

aerinpegadrak

I'd be totally fine with that, but since it's a big birthday, I was hoping to do a surprise party with all of his friends.  If the party idea falls through, I may go that route.

Though now I'm kind of thinking that Vegas might work.  Our various groups of friends go out there all the time, and the drive from Tahoe isn't too bad...  Now I just have to start researching how much it's going to cost me.  Do people usually expect birthday parties to be fully hosted?

bablingbrooke

Technically probably yes but whenever I do things for someone's birthday I always do so expecting to pick up part of the tab, even if I didn't plan it.  Maybe send out some feelers to see if they'd be up for it before planning it?

mbcdefg

Could you do it a couple weeks beforehand? I think that'd be an even bigger surprise for him.

emilyinchile

Yeah, I was going to suggest doing it before, especially if it's a surprise because that makes it less expected.

jenn.daniel

In our group, everyone is poor (students), so birthday parties are definitely NOT fully hosted.  If we're out it goes the other way, and we all chip in to cover the birthday boy/girl.

aerinpegadrak

Only problem with that is that two weeks before his birthday is MY birthday, and I think that might get a little too confusing.

I ran the idea of going to Vegas the day after his cousin's wedding by him, and he's game.  I guess I'll save the big ocean excursion for his 40th, when I'll probably be better able to afford such a big expense anyway.