Coles notes version:
- I hesitantly asked my FSIL to be my BM. I don't really like her, but I felt like I needed to ask her because she will be family, and I was in her WP.
- My FSIL is not the nicest person. If something doesn't benefit her, she takes no interest.
- She told us on Xmas day that she's pregnant. I am so thrilled to be an Aunt.
- She is due August 15. My wedding is July 2.
- She said to me privately on Xmas day: "I have no idea how this is going to work."
I responded with: "Do whatever you want. If you don't know how big you'l be, we can always just go out and buy a brown dress a few weeks before the wedding so you can match."
We were going BM dress shopping last week. On Xmas day, I asked her if she was still coming. She said yes.
The day of, I get a text (doesn't even call me) that says: "I'm not going to come today."
I responded with: "Ok."
It's been 2 weeks and I haven't heard from her.
Has she taken herself out of the WP? Do I call her to confirm, or do I wait for her to talk to me? Do I go ahead and order the other dresses now? Should I tell her we're ordering them, or just completely ignore her?
I'm just confused because if it was her I would have gone in the first place. But if I didn't go, I would have least acted interested and asked how it went after the fact.
I should add - this is my fiance's brother's wife - not my fiance's sister, and people in our family aren't the biggest fans of her.