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Ari & AdamAri & Adam member
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I don’t want to ask my future sister in law to be in our wedding. My fiancé and I are not close with her, we only see her at family functions, and she is always starting fights with my fiancé and his brothers. I am going to ask my sister to be my maid of honor and my younger cousin to be my bridesmaid. My fiancé is going to ask his two brothers to be his best man and groomsmen. We are asking my god son to be our RB and His younger cousin to be our FG. My fiancé says that we should ask her because that’s the “right thing to do”? I don’t believe that… I think you should ask your closest family and friends who have been there to support the two of you! Everyone else we are planning to ask fits that definition.  What do you think?

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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Would it cause drama in the family if she isn't asked? As in: 1) does she want to be in the WP, and 2) if she's not asked, will you hear about it for potentially years to come?  Is she and your other FILs a grudge-holder?  Or would she not really care?

    If she wants to be in and would make a big deal over not being asked, ask her to buy yourself some peace with the family.  Don't forget that she will be family and you want to start that out on the right foot.  If she doesn't care, then don't ask her.  And if FI wants her in the wedding so badly, he can ask her to stand on his side.
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  • stina93446stina93446 member
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    Ask her to do a reading if you want her in the wedding, but not in the party. But I agree with Brooke, if it'll cause drama to not ask her, just ask her. Or have your FI ask her to stand on his side since it's his sister.
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  • marissa_clairemarissa_claire member
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    Ha... i thought i'd be nice and ask my future SIL and it was the worst decision of all time -although mostly because i have to talk to her often now.

    i would say to ask her to do something else... anything else is better than having to deal with her!  I promise!
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  • Ari & AdamAri & Adam member
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    My FMIL and FSIL both hold grudges,(my FMIL still has not said a word about us getting married! NOTHING!!!) I do think it will cause drama and we will probable hear about it from my FSIL forever if we don't ask her but we have never gotten along and its been 7years!! I would NEVER want/assume she would ask me to be in her wedding and I don't want to just ask her because its easier that way. I want a wedding party made up of our family and friends who have always been there for , support, who we have lots of fun with and who we feel close with. to share our day!

    We are having a short and sweet outside ceremony? What else could she do? I can't think of anything...Please Help!!
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