Trying not to make it awkward

Envy13

Hi Ladies!

I'm headed to my hometown this weekend to hopefully order my dress and take care of a few other details. I invited two of my friends who still live in the area to join me and my mom. I mentioned this to both of them when I was last in town and last I checked they will joining us. One of my friends is a bridesmaid and the other will not be.

I'm 99% she won't be upset. When I saw them we joked about bridal party drama on the SYTTD: Bridesmaids show. I doubt she's expecting to be asked and I doubt she'll be surprised I asked the other friend. But she doesn't know that I've asked people, well as far as I know.

I'm just worried that it could get awkward when we're at the bridal salon if the consultant asks if they're in my bridal party. To me it sounds awkward to say "A is but B is not". Am I just super overthinking it?

TIA!!!

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]Hi Ladies! I'm headed to my hometown this weekend to hopefully order my dress and take care of a few other details. I invited two of my friends who still live in the area to join me and my mom. I mentioned this to both of them when I was last in town and last I checked they will joining us. One of my friends is a bridesmaid and the other will not be. I'm 99% she won't be upset. When I saw them we joked about bridal party drama on the SYTTD: Bridesmaids show. I doubt she's expecting to be asked and I doubt she'll be surprised I asked the other friend. But she doesn't know that I've asked people, well as far as I know. I'm just worried that it could get awkward when we're at the bridal salon if the consultant asks if they're in my bridal party. To me it sounds awkward to say "A is but B is not". Am I just super overthinking it? TIA!!!
Posted by Envy13[/QUOTE]
"We're not looking at bridesmaid dresses right now."  If the consultant presses it, it's probably not someplace you should be spending your money anyway.

Ajuliana

Yes, that will be awkward.  Just make sure you mention it to the not BP friend prior to the shopping, tell her how important she is to you but that youre only using family, or trying to keep it small, etc., and just be honest.  

Secondly...I'm so jealous that you've been to Switzerland.  My FI is a dual U.S. and Swiss citizen, and his whole family has been multiple times and speaks Swiss German.  I kind of want to go for a honeymoon, but I know how cold it is, like, yearound.

Envy13

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[QUOTE]Yes, that will be awkward.  Just make sure you mention it to the not BP friend prior to the shopping, tell her how important she is to you but that youre only using family, or trying to keep it small, etc., and just be honest.   Secondly...I'm so jealous that you've been to Switzerland.  <strong>My FI is a dual U.S. and Swiss citizen, and his whole family has been multiple times and speaks Swiss German.</strong>  I kind of want to go for a honeymoon, but I know how cold it is, like, yearound.
Posted by Alaynajuliana[/QUOTE]

<div>haha, I'm a dual US and Swiss citizen. My mom's family is from there and she emigrated to the states as a child. I don't speak Swiss German but am working on High German. I know some Swiss German and that's screws with my pronunciation. It's beautiful and really nice in the summer, not cold at all. Well, unless you're high up in the mountains. But go there for a honeymoon!!! My parents did that. I really recommend Flims, it's a tiny mountain village near Chur with a gorgeous (but usually freezing fyi) lake. But I'm sure your FI would have ideas of his own.</div><div>
</div><div>But yeah, I know she won't be upset. When we were talking beforehand we were both saying how you can't have all your friends because then (in our cases) there would be no guests. I just see the situation could be a bit awkward and I don't want that. I'm trying to meet up with them for lunch beforehand so maybe it could come up then. </div>