bridesmaids.

christiancasey

Okay so I planned on having a wedding with bridesmaids. I brought this up to my two sisters and my two friends about bridesmaids. I didnt ask them to be in it, just talked to them about the whole bridesmaid thing. One of the girls is talking about dresses and things like that although I didnt ask "will you be my bridesmaid". I now dont really want anyone up there with me although FI wants his brother up there with him. Is this okay? and how to tell these girls nicely that they arent going to be standing up there with me?  

marinabreeze

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[QUOTE]Okay so I planned on having a wedding with bridesmaids. I brought this up to my two sisters and my two friends about bridesmaids. I didnt ask them to be in it, just talked to them about the whole bridesmaid thing. One of the girls is talking about dresses and things like that although I didnt ask "will you be my bridesmaid". I now dont really want anyone up there with me although FI wants his brother up there with him. Is this okay? and how to tell these girls nicely that they arent going to be standing up there with me? :/ 
Posted by christiancasey[/QUOTE]

You can have who you want up there or no one at all.  You choose you side, your FI chooses his.  And as far as your sisters and friends, maybe the best thing is to not bring up the BM issue at all.  If they ask, just let them know that you have not decided on bridesmaids, or if you will have bridesmaids.  If they persist, politely change the subject ("bean-dip" them).

christiancasey

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[QUOTE]In Response to bridesmaids. : You can have who you want up there or no one at all.  You choose you side, your FI chooses his.  And as far as your sisters and friends, maybe the best thing is to not bring up the BM issue at all.  If they ask, just let them know that you have not decided on bridesmaids, or if you will have bridesmaids.  If they persist, politely change the subject ("bean-dip" them).
Posted by marinabreeze[/QUOTE]

thank you very much!

mbcdefg

If you didn't officially ask them to be bridesmaids, or heavily hint around that you'd be asking them to be bridesmaids, then you're off the hook.

If it comes up with them, just say that you decided not to have any attendants at all. Stop talking about wedding plans with them entirely, in fact, and only answer questions if they ask you how it's going.

christiancasey

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[QUOTE]If you didn't officially ask them to be bridesmaids, or heavily hint around that you'd be asking them to be bridesmaids, then you're off the hook. If it comes up with them, just say that you decided not to have any attendants at all. Stop talking about wedding plans with them entirely, in fact, and only answer questions if they ask you how it's going.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

thank you! I try not to talk to them about the wedding but Im just so excited and do SO much planning and getting ideas all the time and sometimes Im just overly excited and want to share with someone! I share alot of stuff with the FI but he just isnt into it like I am! LOL

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaids. : thank you! I try not to talk to them about the wedding but Im just so excited and do SO much planning and getting ideas all the time and sometimes Im just overly excited and want to share with someone!<strong> I share alot of stuff with the FI but he just isnt into it like I am! LOL
</strong>Posted by christiancasey[/QUOTE]

If your FI isn't interested in all of it, and these girls aren't BMs, they very well may not be interested in it either. I know you're excited and all, but you do need to remember that others will never be as interested in your wedding as you are.

As long as you didn't give them the impression that you were going to ask them, I think it's fine to just tell them later that you decided not to have BMs. But don't worry about that right now as PP said. It's still early on.