How can I honor a would-be bridesmaid who can't come because...

clarepattee

How can I honor/thank a would-be bridesmaid who can't come to my wedding because I picked my wedding to overlap her sisters? Her sister picked her date first, and I was very limited on my wedding dates, and I choose to have my date over having her as a bridesmaid, let alone in attendance. 
I don't want her to feel forgotten or underappreciated. What can I do for her to let her know just how much she means to me?

clarepattee

Sorry, I should clarify... I meant outside of the wedding.  Such as get her a gift, invite her to shower, bachelorette, etc.  She lives in Cali and I live in Georgia, and she would be a bridesmaid in my wedding had I not had to choose this date

Robyn5298

I have a bridesmaid who had to back out of our wedding for personal reasons.  It was really sad, and I wanted to do something to sort of make us both feel better.  I gave her a cute necklace that would have been her bridesmaid gift anyway.

It doesn't have to be something big, you could just send her a card with a small but personal token that you know she'll like.  I'm sure she'd appreciate that!

And by all means, invite her to the wedding related parties.  She is under no obligation to attend, (and given the distance I doubt she will) but just because she can't make it to the actual wedding doesn't mean she shouldn't be invited to other celebrations.