Is it Okay to not have an equal number of male/female bridal party attendants?

mrscolyer92411

I am getting married next September to a widower who has two girls.  I am asking three of my closest friends to be my maid of honor and bridesmaids and I would like his two girls to stand up for him.  He also would like to include his brother and two of his friends (plus maybe my brother) as his best man and groomsmen/ushers.  In essence, when your looking at the bridal party, I'll have three girls on my side and he'll have 3 (maybe 4) guys on his side plus his daughters. 

Does anyone else thing this would look weird and off-balanced?

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]I am getting married next September to a widower who has two girls.  I am asking three of my closest friends to be my maid of honor and bridesmaids and I would like his two girls to stand up for him.  He also would like to include his brother and two of his friends (plus maybe my brother) as his best man and groomsmen/ushers.  In essence, when your looking at the bridal party, I'll have three girls on my side and he'll have 3 (maybe 4) guys on his side plus his daughters.  Does anyone else thing this would look weird and off-balanced?
Posted by mrscolyer92411[/QUOTE]
From the very top of the board, underneath the words "Wedding Party:"

"Are uneven sides okay? (Yes!)"

bablingbrooke

Look up at the top of the home page for Wedding Party.  It says, "Are uneven sides okay? (Yes!)."

Long and short, they're fine.  Many people on this board, myself included, had them.  I think what you have planned sounds lovely.

mrscolyer92411

Thanks!  Didn't even catch the comment at the top about uneven sides.

mbcdefg

It's better to include people you love, than to exclude loved ones/include random slot-fillers just for the sake of having even numbers.

No, it will not look weird. Your photos will not be ruined. Your photos will be filled with people you love.

Your guests really will not care about this. They are there to see you get married, not criticize your wedding party lineup. If they don't already know your attendants before your wedding, then they probably will not notice or care about them during your wedding (example, if a guest isn't already friends with your FI's buddies, then they won't even be paying attention to them at the wedding. And his relatives will probably just be cooing at how sweet the daughters look.)

Nobody ever comes here after their wedding and reports, "Everything was nice, but I really wish we'd had an even bridal party." Actually, we see a LOT of people saying, "I wish I hadn't asked a random friend to be the fourth bridesmaid just to even things out, because I wasn't that close to her and the wedding planning just made it worse."

megandjay

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[QUOTE]<strong>Uneven sides (including an unequal number of men and women) is absolutely okay</strong>.
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]

This.

[Deleted User]

Perfectly ok.

Brooke2780

My fiance is having 4 groomsmen, one of which is my 10 year old son. I am having 6 bridesmaids (which includes two maids of honor.) We have decided to split up the guys and ladies on both sides, as we love them and they are all standing up for us as a couple. On each side there will then be girl, guy, girl, guy, girl.

Some traditions are made to be broken, I think!