My fiance's best man has a girlfriend (of 9+ years) whom I have grown very close with over the last 2 years. I wanted her to be a bridesmaid. Now she and the BM are going thru some issues and they might be calling it quits. I don't want to add to her pain but I think I would rather she not be a bridesmaid just in case they do split up before our wedding. Our wedding isn't for 11 months but the rest of my bridal party is already planning things for everyone to do, etc and I'm leary of having her as part of the party now. It actually works out ok for me because now I can have my cousin/goddaughter as a junior bridesmaid.