My SIL, one of my bridesmaids, and my beloved grandmother have gotten into a huge fight over some money that disappeared from my grandmothers house. We know for a fact that my SIL stole it because my brother found the money at their apartment. My grandmother is very hurt and my brother has decided to seperate from her over her lying about the money **kinda the last straw in a already troubled relationship**
My sisters, who are my other bridesmaids, have all told me that my SIL is not invited to anything wedding party related that they are planning, like the bridal shower, unless she makes good with my grandmother, which she is refusing to do since she still swears she did nothing wrong and that Gran owed her the money, which is not true given that my SIL still owes Gran for money she borrowed for rent.
I know kicking someone out of a wedding party is normally a huge no no, but I really feel like having her in the wedding would insult the more important people in my life, ie my sisters, my Gran, and my brother. I value my relationship with my Gran more then my SIL, and I am so angry over the fact that she would steal money from a retired woman on a fixed income. Even if my brother and her got back together, I don't see her being a person who I'd feel comfortable being with me on my big day.
edit- I'm not going to replace her in the wedding party if I do kick her out and the girls have not bought dresses yet. I just don't want her in my wedding party and neither does my brother or my FI, who loves my Gran like she's his own grandmother.