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I don't know what to do!

Hi everyone, it's my first post!  As a newly engaged bride to be, I'm a little shocked to find that it's harder than I thought it would be to pick a wedding party.  I have had my 5 BMs picked out for years.  Then I met my fiancee..

And he has 11 brothers and sisters, 12 including himself.  6 boys, 6 girls.  He is number 8 and we have been together for almost 7 years now so I am close with all 6 sisters.  My fiancee has found a spot for his five brothers.  Now I don't know what to do with his six sisters.

Also, throw into the mix that my mother is one of 9.  I have 18 first cousins (last time I checked) and I have chosen 6 cousins from both  my parents side to be represented in the party.

Back to the 6 sisters...  I am the maid of honor in one of my fiancee's sisters wedding, so she makes bridesmaid #6. 

Here is what I'm thinking. 

BMs:
My 5 girls + sister #1.
Flower Girls:  2 cousins (represents dad side) and 1 niece.  Niece represents Sister #2.
Ring Bearers:  2 nephews (1 nephew represents a brother, the other represents sister #2 again)
Ushers: 2 cousins (represents moms side)
2 readings during mass:  Sister # 3 and Sister #4
Gifts during mass: 2 cousins (represents moms side)


LIke I said, the brothers are all represented in groomsmen and ushers, etc. Now, I don't know what to do with sister #5 and sister #6.(Sister 5 is in her thirties, sister 6 is 14).  I really don't feel comfortable with including some and not all of his siblings, especially since I am close to all 6.  I'm an only child and they've all become the siblings I've never had.  My mother thinks I am representing too much of his family and not enough of hers or my fathers, but it's really hard when we have families of this magnittude.  Any suggestions??

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