Does One Bridesmaid Make Me a Loser? Haha!

Mirandaasch

So, I've always been the type of person to have only a very few close friends.

Anyways, I have one very close friend who I've known since I was five. I have always known that she would be my bridesmaid. At this point, she is my ONLY bridesmaid. Although have other friends, no one stands out as being particularly closer than any of the others.

I love the idea of a really small wedding party. My FI has asked his best friend from childhood to be his best man, but he also wants another of his friends to be a second groomsman.

I've lurked long enough to know that uneven sides is perfectly fine and I don't have a problem with it myself.

What I want to know is does the perception change when the bridal party is so small? My FI and my family thinks it's kind of weird.

Am I going to look like a huge loner??

Manwaithiel

No, you're going to look like someone who is selective with their friends. There is nothing wrong with that. Your FI needs to be supportive of your decision and your family has no reason to be involved in this.

bablingbrooke

Of course not.

PeonyPrincesskdd

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[QUOTE]So, I've always been the type of person to have only a very few close friends. Anyways, I have one very close friend who I've known since I was five. I have always known that she would be my bridesmaid. At this point, she is my ONLY bridesmaid. Although have other friends, no one stands out as being particularly closer than any of the others. I love the idea of a really small wedding party. My FI has asked his best friend from childhood to be his best man, but he also wants another of his friends to be a second groomsman. I've lurked long enough to know that uneven sides is perfectly fine and I don't have a problem with it myself. What I want to know is does the perception change when the bridal party is so small? My FI and my family thinks it's kind of weird. Am I going to look like a huge loner??
Posted by Mirandaasch[/QUOTE]

No of course you will not look like a huge loner.

Everyone will be focused on you and your FI.  No one will even notice the bridal party. 

You chose your bridal party well.  You really only truly have one super close friend.  If your FI has 2 people on his side, that is fine.  It doesn't anything.

You don't need to have any more than what you have. 

Trust me in that everyone will be looking at you and your FI and not notice anything else

Mirandaasch

Thanks ladies, just what I needed to hear! No, my family doesn't get a say in this, they just thought it was odd and made me second guess myself. I think part of me just really wants it to be a special thing between my best friend and I. .

AutumnFair

Oh thank goodness, there are lurkers out there that are enlightened by the daily advice. I think your friend will love having the honor to stand next to you. Welcome to the boards!

gottahavashorti

Nope, it doesn't change at all.  I think we went to a wedding where there was a Best Man, Maid of Honor, and one bridesmaid.  I'm not 100% sure but I don't think there was a second Best Man or a GM. 

I only noticed the number in the bridal party because someone was explaining to us how the bride chose one friend from home and one from college, because she didn't want a massive bridal party and she coudln't choose multiple friends without having enitre groups of close friends.

mbcdefg

I only had two bridesmaids, my sister and a friend. MH had his friend and my brother.

It was SO easy only having the two of them ... picking out dresses, buying gifts and accessories for them, paying for their flowers and rehearsal meals, we had space at the head table and in the limo for them and their dates. I've heard horror stories from friends and Knotties about having to coordinate between 7 bridesmaids and dealing with drama, but I had zero problems with my bridesmaids.

And honestly, I find it MORE weird when brides have a ton of bridesmaids, than if they have four or less.

trix1223

My sister and BIL had no WP.  I loved the look of just the two of them together in the front of the church.  And I promise that, while I'm a little biased (ok, a lot) they're most certainly not losers. 

GL

Mirandaasch

Hahaha, yes I've learned a lot as a lurker and I'm frankly surprised at how often the same questions come up over and over! I really didn't want to be 'one of those' and post another question about uneven WP, but I needed a little reassurance. It's amazing how quickly the crazy comes out when planning a wedding. I never thought I'd be one to get anxious over little things!

happy_sarah

One bridesmaid is perfectly normal! What would be bad is to ask someone you're not very good friends with to be a bridesmaid just because you think you need more.

A few years ago I was a bridesmaid to someone I didn't know very well at all and it was awkward. I was there just to even out the wedding party. Please don't do that to someone! 

bablingbrooke

Little things can make you crazy but only if you let them!

I'm going to share with you the One Day Rule.  It was a lifesaver when planning our wedding.  Here's how it works: If something will not matter one day after the wedding, you don't get to stress about it.  You have to just let it go.  99.99% of wedding planning "problems" have to be dismissed under the One Day Rule.  It wasn't always easy to follow, but we did.  I'm so glad we did.  I recommend it to anybody.

Hope you stick around!

kpwedkk

If you feel funny with one person standing next to you, you can have them - bm and best man walk up, and sit at the front, they don't have to stand while you are getting married










Hope that helps!

stina93446

You definitely wouldn't look like a loner. I think it's very chic, modern, and makes a statement of "we don't want complications and this day is about us, not a million people on the stage."

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I only had my MOH, who is my best friend. I didn't see the need for a bunch of BMs, and didn't want to deal with coordinating a WP anyway. As far as I know, no one saw that as me just being a huge loner. They knew my MOH and I are really close, and that we didn't need anyone else standing up with us.

marisah83

I'm only having one person.  I was also the only attendant in my best friend's wedding.  I've had several people comment about how it is "weird," but I want to keep it small and simple. 

Ang1926

definately not, i have only got one bridesmaid, its much more personal for me and my closest girl friend. and we only have to pay for one dress, one set of accessories etc, much cheaper!