Our definitions of a beautiful wedding don't match up.

sss937

So, I just got engaged last week and I'm so excited. Being an event planner, I immediately started planning. I love my best friend and so there was no question that she would be my MOH. We have very different styles though. At her wedding 5 or so years ago she had a cascading bouquet. I think that's dated and very out. She likes conservative A line dresses and I want something sexy and figure hugging. Don't get me wrong, I'm on a budget and certainly am not the bride to need couture brand name anything, but I do want things to look polished. For example, when she suggested that I talk to the wedding photographer she used I froze. They look so amateur I thought she just had a friend snap shots from an every day camera. I don't want to insult her, but she keeps suggesting things wanting to be helpful and I haven't liked one thing so far. Help! How do I handle this?? The last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings when I know she just wants to help. 

mbcdefg

Friends and family will naturally want to offer their advice and vendor recommendations, so be prepared for a whole lot of that throughout your engagement.

Try not to bring up wedding details with her if you think she's just going to give unwanted input. Since you've only been engaged a week, try saying, "Thanks for the recommendation! We're still on Cloud 9 from the proposal, so it'll be a while before we start making solid plans." Or, "Thanks for the suggestion! We'll look into that vendor." Then quickly change the subject.

If you know there's an area where you really WOULD value her input, try to talk up that area if she wants to discuss wedding plans. For example, if you loved her invitations, put a lot of focus on that so that hopefully she'll forget about flowers and photos and such.

stina93446

She has different tastes...so what? If she suggests stuff, say thanks for the idea, and omit it. Then move on. No biggie. 

trix1223

All you need to do is say "That's an interesting suggestion.  I'll consider it."  Then consider it and toss it out with the other ideas that you won't be using.

lalap69

It's your wedding, not hers.  Obviously don't go sticking her in a dress you know she'll be very uncomfortable in, but it's not up to her to decide anything for your wedding.  If it's really an issue, just don't discuss the wedding with her at all.  She doesn't need to know the details you're planning.