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Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?

Because I have to admit, I LOVE reading those posts. They typically give me a good laugh and appreciation for all the advice I got NOT to choose my WP so early.

And every time I see a subject relating to that I get excited. I know, I'm pathetic.
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    Hahahaha you got me for a second!

    I feel happy when brides realize, 'Yeah, that is a pretty silly reason to kick someone out.'  I go crazy when brides either, 1) say 'You don't know me!' or 2) latch on to the one person who says it's totally cool to do so.

    Definitely one of the reasons knotting is so addictive--you can't make some of this stuff up!
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    I know! My sister had an account but never got on the forums to do anything but lurk. I loved lurking with her. Just to see what new crazy story was posted up.
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    I was in a WP where it happened. Crazy stuff brides will do. All over a pair of shoes my sister wouldn't wear. She can't walk in 4 in heels. Imagine that. Most girls cant.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:3aeb36d3-b633-4bfc-ae1d-3480630704e5">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never heard about this happening in real life and FI and I have been to/in a ton of weddings. Has anyone you know ever kicked someone out?
    Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]
    My BFF was MOH in her sister's wedding.  She got kicked out because she would be  7/8 months pregnant at the wedding, and "her dress wouldn't match."

    She was reinstated after the family basically threated to boycott, but, yeah.  It happens.
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    Not to sound like one of "them" but I would give my left arm to kick out my FBIL.  Just bc he treats my FI like crap. Oh and he gave us a list of his ex-con friends that he wanted invited to our wedding..yea, not happening! :)
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    I have seen it happen too. And then the bride scrambling to find someone that would fit in the dress.... She's divorced now, only for about a week. 
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    I've never known anyone who was kicked out of a wedding or kicked someone out of theirs...but I did get a kick out of reading posts from completely self-centered brides to be.
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    One of the GMs is really hurting FI's feelings, constantly, blowing him off, treating him like crap.  I don't want to kick him out, but I DO want to sit him down and say "Why are you behaving this way towards your so-called 'best friend'?"

    BUT.  I also realize that it's none of my business, and that my FI is a big boy who can handle his GM problems himself if he sees fit.
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    My BMs were 4 of my closest friends - friends I've had for over 15 years now. I have ZERO regrets and love them all to peices. So nope, no drama from me, either!

    I don't actually know anyone IRL who has kicked anyone out of their WP. Probably b/c I wouldn't be friends with someone who would.
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    I kicked a bridesmaid out of my wedding about 3 hours after I asked her to be in it. She pretty much beat up another bridesmaid who was HALF her size in a psychopathic rage. I have zero regrets about it, haven't talked to her since and am perfectly happy with that. I think that physical violence is justifiable. 
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    Woah...that's crazy...

    I haven't kicked anyone out, but I did have a friend who kept leaving the party herself a few times. She was going to be in, then she wasn't. I ended up saying, look, if you want to be in it, buy a dress and show up. There will be a spot for you. If not, we'll just list you in the program anyway.
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    I think sazatronic means to say "I haven't kicked anyone out, but I tell other people that they should."

    Mbarnhrt, that does sound like a legit reason.
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    I had a BM that was also in/out every week, she eventually dropped out without really telling me and I found another girl the same day.  I'm pretty sure she's not coming to the wedding at all now by her own choice. 
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    See...I'm always completely baffled by the "I want to kick some one out" or "Don't choose too early because friendships/relationships change." I mean, are you just asking someone you've known six months? Out of my 7 BP members, the shortest I've known someone is 6 years...I can't imagine just picking a random buddy to be  up there! I've asked my members 10 months in advance. I'm not worried about having to think about possibly kicking someone out or regretting asking one of them. It is all so odd to me!
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    Some girl on my month board yesterday had a BM drop out and then replaced her within about an hour. Because she's on a time crunch! The dresses take 12 weeks to get in!

    Don't worry, most people completely side-eyed that.
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    People do crazy things out of their character everyday. Its not as uncommon as we think. Look at this board and chit chat, happens all the time.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:3aeb36d3-b633-4bfc-ae1d-3480630704e5">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I've never heard about this happening in real life and FI and I have been to/in a ton of weddings. Has anyone you know ever kicked someone out?
    Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

    Me! I was kicked out because the bride decided that my "walk with God" wasn't strong enough. Wish I was kidding.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:d08d5fa6-ce1a-4e22-855d-95db8e286247">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]See...I'm always completely baffled by the "I want to kick some one out" or "Don't choose too early because friendships/relationships change." I mean, are you just asking someone you've known six months? Out of my 7 BP members, the shortest I've known someone is 6 years...I can't imagine just picking a random buddy to be  up there! I've asked my members 10 months in advance. I'm not worried about having to think about possibly kicking someone out or regretting asking one of them. It is all so odd to me!
    Posted by ElleTR13[/QUOTE]
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    I think it's more that people can find themselves in new situations.  They leave schools, jobs, local areas and suddenly they aren't as close.  I asked at the year mark and have NO regrets.  My closest friends then are my closest friends now.  BUT, as a rule, I'd advise people not to choose too early unless they know that these are the ones who eill stay.

    And we have a new one - if your BM goes into psychopathic rage and beats up another wedding party member, she can be kicked out.
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    I would never kick anyone out of my WP, but I would love to be able to speak up and say "would you really appreciate it if your bridesmaid and friend did this when you are getting married."

    My bridesmaids are friends that I have had forever and I feel like I have to hold their hands every step of the way. Aren't they supposed to be there to help you, not make things more complicated for the bride? 

    So far, one of my bridesmaids and best friends has been so preoccupied with other things in her life that my wedding stuff is last on her list of priorities. I respect that people have other more important things going on in their lives, but they shouldn't have agreed to make a commitment like this if they don't have the time for it. Anyway, my one bridesmaid came to our engagement party an hour late, which was a sit down dinner, so we had to wait for her until she showed before we started dinner. Her excuse, was traffic. Then she shows up to my bridal shower a half hour late and it was located right around the corner from where she lives. Her excuse this time was that she couldn't find her car keys, however it probably would have taken her only 10 mins to walk there. She also forgot to bring the recipe card that was requested of all shower guests. 

    Not to mention, another one of my bridesmaids called me during the beginning of my shower to see if I could walk down the street b/c the handle on the present broke and she was trying to carry the cake in too. She didn't want to pay for parking so she parked far away from the venue, but could have easily parked in the drop-off/pick-up area to drop everything off and then gone and parked. So she wanted me to leave my bridal shower to come and help her. I don't know why she called me when I have provided all bridesmaids and MOH with each others numbers for such emergencies. This was a problem b/c I was also playing mediator that day between my sister/MOH and mom who haven't spoken in almost 8 months, so my stress level was already high.

    Finally, the third bridesmaid offered to help my MOH with the shower and my MOH said it would be great if you would get the cake. Then my bridesmaid asked what my MOH's budget is for the cake. My MOH was a bit surprised and so was I since I was this particular bridesmaid's MOH in her wedding. I threw her bridal shower, her bachelorette party and her first baby shower. She didn't even want to pitch in $40 for the cake for my shower. All she did was call in the order and then had one of my other bridesmaids pick it up while my MOH paid for it. 

    I just wish they would take more responsibility and try to help me a little more b/c I haven't asked anything of them except to attend my events and purchase the dresses. Otherwise they haven't been asked to help with anything else at all. They are grown women so it would be nice if they could figure some of this stuff out on their own and show up to my events on time. Just venting though b/c I could never say anything to them. I want them in my wedding just would love some more support and help from them and would love to have faith that they will actually be there on time for my wedding and rehearsal.

    Thanks for letting me vent!!!


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    LAH missed the point of the post (it was ironic).
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    Basically just venting. Sorry it felt good to just let it out that some of my bridesmaids have hurt my feelings a little by not treating my pre-wedding events as important or not stepping up to help make things easier on me, but rather leaning on me to fix their problems. The point: Even though I'm not super happy with some of my bridesmaids, I would NEVER kick them out of my WP.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:dd01c35e-caf8-43f8-bc95-16cf31e2ae5c">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Basically just venting. Sorry it felt good to just let it out that some of my bridesmaids have hurt my feelings a little by not treating my pre-wedding events as important or not stepping up to help make things easier on me, but rather leaning on me to fix their problems. The point: Even though I'm not super happy with some of my bridesmaids, I would NEVER kick them out of my WP.
    Posted by LAHwed2010[/QUOTE]
    <div>Sorry to misread.  However, you came across as someone who's upset that 1) her BMs have lives of their own outside your wedding and 2) that they've made some sort of faux pas by doing so.   Your pre-wedding parties should be fun; if you need HELP with them or need to make them EASIER, you're doing it wrong.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Disclaimer: I am knotting while drunk, but I doubt I'd feel much different sober.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:982e2be8-c45b-42cd-bf7f-7328ebcfc605">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP? : Sorry to misread.  However, you came across as someone who's upset that 1) her BMs have lives of their own outside your wedding and 2) that they've made some sort of faux pas by doing so.   Your pre-wedding parties should be fun; if you need HELP with them or need to make them EASIER, you're doing it wrong.   Disclaimer: I am knotting while drunk, but I doubt I'd feel much different sober.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    <div>Definitely not either of those scenarios apply. All that is asked of them is to attend my events and purchase their dresses, which I actually picked up for all of them so they wouldn't have to find time to pick them up. The shower was at a restaurant so it should have been super easy b/c not too much to do and it was all planned by my MOH. However instead of calling the MOH when an issue came up I was called and asked to leave my own shower to help with a small cake issue. </div><div>
    </div><div>I totally respect that people have other things going on in their lives, however if the same BM is at least 30 mins late to two pre-wedding events and both excuses are either traffic or lost keys, then it makes me lose a little faith in the BM and makes me wonder if that BM will also be late to the rehearsal or wedding.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_anybody-else-want-kick-someone-out-of-their-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:bdf9ab81-89e3-42b5-85d9-d81c17bf443dPost:e2951764-8c8d-44d9-8eba-eeedaf9e0e95">Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP? : Definitely not either of those scenarios apply. All that is asked of them is to attend my events and purchase their dresses, which I actually picked up for all of them so they wouldn't have to find time to pick them up. The shower was at a restaurant so it should have been super easy b/c not too much to do and it was all planned by my MOH. However instead of calling the MOH when an issue came up I was called and asked to leave my own shower to help with a small cake issue.  I totally respect that people have other things going on in their lives, however if the same BM is at least 30 mins late to two pre-wedding events and both excuses are either traffic or lost keys, then it makes me lose a little faith in the BM and makes me wonder if that BM will also be late to the rehearsal or wedding.
    Posted by LAHwed2010[/QUOTE]
    Even if that happens, it's SO not the end of the world.  What if they're late--what's the worst thing that will happen?  The wedding starts a little late.  You'll still be married at the end of the day.  <div>
    </div><div>Just keep the perspective here.  This sort of thing is nothing but background noise.  I could tell you stories about my sister's/MOH's behaviour at the shower/rehearsal/RD/wedding that would curl your hair.  I still think our wedding was absolutely perfect and I wouldn't do a single thing differently.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Does anybody else want to kick someone out of their WP? : Even if that happens, it's SO not the end of the world.  What if they're late--what's the worst thing that will happen?  The wedding starts a little late.  You'll still be married at the end of the day.   Just keep the perspective here.  This sort of thing is nothing but background noise.  I could tell you stories about my sister's/MOH's behaviour at the shower/rehearsal/RD/wedding that would curl your hair.  I still think our wedding was absolutely perfect and I wouldn't do a single thing differently.
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks for that! You are totally right! It is so easy to get caught up in the hype of a "Perfect Wedding" that it's easy to lose the focus on what is really important. I will be marrying the love of my life and that's all that should matter...well and the drinks that day of course. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> Cheers to letting go of the Bridezillaness that was brewing!</div>
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    Cheers!  I'll drink to that :)
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    Someone I work with is seriously considering kicking someone out of her WP (her wedding is a month or two away) because the BM got the bride fired from her job. According to the bride, the BM wrote a letter to their boss detailing EVERYTHING that the bride had ever done wrong/made a mistake while working there. The BM then apologized to the bride because she "didn't realize what would happen to her" as a result of the letter. I'm pretty sure their friendship was over when the bride found that information out.
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    What if the person says they "might" not be able to come to the wedding?  Is it wrong to give them the boot?  Because I was just forced to make that decision yesterday.  I feel horrible about it, but the ONLY responsibility she had was to show up, and she's known about it for 9 months now. 

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    [QUOTE]What if the person says they "might" not be able to come to the wedding?  Is it wrong to give them the boot?  Because I was just forced to make that decision yesterday.  I feel horrible about it, but the ONLY responsibility she had was to show up, and she's known about it for 9 months now. 
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    Yes, it's wrong to give someone the boot if they aren't 100% sure.  You weren't "forced" to make any decision.  Stop being melodramatic.  Unless the wedding is tomorrow, you didn't have to make any decision yesterday.  And you could still be flexible and not replace her (which is what I'm guessing you did).<div>
    </div><div>I committed to being in a wedding the date of which I don't know yet.  She's getting married sometime next summer.  I'm taking the bar next July whether I like it or not; I have no say over the date and it won't be held for another six months after that so I have to take it then.  If she holds the wedding that weekend I'll have to back out, even if I had already said yes, because I can't change the date of the bar.  Is it fair for the bride to boot me?  No.  She knows the date and is planning it for a different month right now so we don't foresee a problem, but she knows choosing the bar over her wedding isn't a comment on me not supporting the marriage--it's about me taking the freaking bar exam.</div>
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