Do I tell my BM about the jewelry I'm giving?

wedgrl651

I'm purchasing jewelry for by BM's to wear. I know I'll get the accessories question soon because most of them are into fashion. Should I tell them that I am taking care of that part? I would like it to be a surprise with the gifts I'm giving them at the RD. (And no, this will not be their only gift...they will be getting several other things)

Summer2011Bride

If they ask about jewelry, I would probably tell them you're giving them necklaces, just because as a BM, I would hate to go out and buy a necklace to match my dress only to find out the bride gives me a necklace the day before she wants me to wear. In all the weddings I've seen where the bride gave necklaces the day before, the BMs had an idea beforehand she would be doing so.

GoodLuckBear14

Yes.  I would be ticked if I bought jewelry just to have you spring this on me the day before the wedding.

Kate61487

ditto PP - I'd let them know you've taken care of ____ accessories, so they don't go buy something to match.

aerinpegadrak

I would also let them know in advance.  Though if they're accessories people, I'd be inclined to see what they come up with as a way of letting their own personalities come out.

Simply Fated

I would tell them asap in case they make plans to find their own.

mbrischoux

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[QUOTE]Yes.  I would be ticked if I bought jewelry just to have you spring this on me the day before the wedding.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I agree.  I learned after my wedding that my girls were trying to find something as far as jewelry for the wedding, an if I had told them that was going to be my gift to them sooner, i could have saved them the trouble of trying to find something or returning something later.  Fortunately, since thet were all my cousins and it's a family tradition to give jewelry for maid's gifts, my aunt told them they shouldn't worry.

I would, however, make sure the jewelry is chosen individually, with each girl's taste in mind.