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ebnrae

should i put my fiance' sister as one of my bridesmaid even though i know she does not care to much for me:0/......

gottahavashorti

How do your families work?  It can sometimes be easier to do so to keep the peace.  But having your FI ask her to be a groomswoman would probably be a better alternative if you're not close to your FSIL.

Edit: By having your FI ask her, I really just mean letting him know that opposite gender wedding party members are okay.  Each of you gets to choose your side of the wedding party.

stina93446

It will probably NOT change your relationship with her. People think that weddings will magically make everyone behave....NO, it doesn't work like that. 

If your FI wants his sister in the WP, have him ask her to be a groomswoman. His side is picked by him and your side is picked by you.

heyimbren

Gotta's suggestion of having her in your groom's wedding party sounds like a great compromise and way to deal with this. Let her be a "groomsmaid" essentially.

mysticl

You do not need to ask her.  And if you aren't close you probably shouldn't.

aerinpegadrak

DH and my brother don't really get along, so my brother was on my side for the wedding.