Groomsmen as ushers?

FKS

We were debating who to ask to be ushers for our wedding and my mom said she thought that the groomsmen usually serve as ushers. Is there a right or wrong here?

Licia&Wayne

I think it's whatever you feel like. We're using our groomsmen as ushers, but others use a different set of people. It's up to you. There is no standard.

FKS

Thanks Licia&Wayne.

trix1223

I don't think I've actually ever seen a wedding with separate GM and ushers.  And I'm a church organist, so I've seen LOTS of weddings. 

megk8oz

Every wedding I've ever been to (Including my own) the GMs were the ushers. I honestly didn't know people had "separate" ushers until I joined the Knot.

roma14

It may be a regional thing.  In my area I would say about 60-75% of the weddings I've been to had ushers that were separate from the groomsmen.  I personally had our groomsmen do double-duty.

twilight.rose

We had separate ushers. I've only attended a couple of weddings where the GM also acted as the ushers.

Licia&Wayne

I have 3 cousins who, in their younger days, were always the ushers, never the groomsmen in every family wedding. And I mean each and every one. We now refer to them as "the kings of ush" or "ushing specialists". We thought about asking them to be ushers for us to bring them out of retirement, but we didn't want to make them the Brett Favres of ushers.

Most of the weddings I've been to have had different sets of people as groomsmen and ushers. I don't really know why. I think a lot of people use it as a way to include people that they couldn't have as attendants.

awick14

we are having the groomsmen as our ushers, other then we may ask FI brother to help with this. as FI didn't want him in the wedding party, but his mom wants his brother to walk her down the aisle.

mysticl

Most of the weddings I've been to have had the GM be ushers.  I thought it was odd the first time I saw different ushers. 

We will be having ushers that aren't GM just because we aren't have GM.

derrickb

I have chosen to ask a few guys to help usher along with my Jr. Groomsmen. I was planning on having all the GM do double duty, but I'm thinking I'll want them to hang out with to keep my nerves down. Plus, then there are ushers for any late guests.

mysticl

Derrick, just a thought on the ushers for late guests.  Does that mean that your ushers  don't get to see the wedding because they are hanging out in the entryway in case someone is late?  Usually the late guest just sneaks into the last row and hopes they didn't make too big of an entrance. 

suz62984

I've only attended one wedding where the GM were the Ushers. I think it is more common here to have separate GMs and Ushers. I just figured it was a regional thing or something. Do what you want. No one will be paying attention to the person that sits them. I will say that I decided not to have the GMs as ushers just because my FI wanted to hang out with them up until the ceremony. If they were ushers, they would be sitting people for 30 minutes prior to the wedding.

suz62984

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-ushers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:c443558f-fa63-4a79-b331-ca939bf0d760Post:be440fe4-2475-4154-ae18-fdbc79416a93">Re: Groomsmen as ushers?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have chosen to ask a few guys to help usher along with my Jr. Groomsmen. I was planning on having all the GM do double duty, but I'm thinking I'll want them to hang out with to keep my nerves down. <strong>Plus, then there are ushers for any late guests.</strong>
Posted by derrickb[/QUOTE]

Late guests get to sneak in the side door. Ushers are people you ask, that are special to you (more so than just a guest). You will not want them to miss the ceremony by standing in the hallway waiting for a random guest that may or may not be late.