Oh, Moms and Maids....

aerinpegadrak

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-sister-drama_.0

Apparently I'm not being helpful.

marissa_claire

I know - I'm commenting too!  This girl's ridic.

aerinpegadrak

Apparently the idea of altering her bridal edict is just incomprehensible.  You guys, why can't they just be humble like I told them to?!?!?!

Beachy730

That girl really just needs a slap in the face to remember that its only a wedding.  I went there just to read it but had to comment.  How dare these girls not concede and just apologize when they were asked to be humble?

bablingbrooke

I hate it when brides view their weddings as outlets for complete and utter control over others.  Not healthy.

MairePoppy

Wow aerin, you have a lot of nerve being so accommodating with your own bm's. It make brides like Qiana look so unreasonable.

bablingbrooke

Oh boy, she's on a roll now.

frogurt814

At first I didn't think she was all too bad, but wow.  The more she posts, the worse it gets.

Beachy730

I love that she thinks offering to change the sash should have made them suddenly love the dress.  And regardless of what she says, I'm convinced there is more to this story if her mom is threatening not to attend because of a dress. 

When will newbs ever understand that not validating your ridiculous ideas is a sign that it is a ridiculous idea?

bablingbrooke

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-moms-maids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c4f2bf8a-1fe7-42ec-a778-92de905825e7Post:6452a261-4408-4a34-aa22-ca7c6e472b1c">Re: Oh, Moms and Maids....</a>:
[QUOTE]When will newbs ever understand that not validating your ridiculous ideas is a sign that it is a ridiculous idea?
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Never.  Somehow we warped little girls into thinking this is acceptable behaviour.<div>
</div><div>I don't condone the ppt presentation, but there HAS to be more to the story.  I have a feeling she's been just as insufferable on everything else and that this was the last straw.</div>

marissa_claire

Yeah, did you see her most recent?  Something to the effect of "the dresses they want are very similar to the ones I chose" .... yeah, I doubt it.  In my first post to her I said "I think you're not telling the whole story" and even though a lot of shiit has come out, I still think she's holding back some details.

bablingbrooke

She just posted the dresses they picked, and they're almost exactly the same.  Definitely other things going on here.  That or her sisters and mom are in some conspiracy to ruin her wedding, which I doubt very much.

aerinpegadrak

She mentioned that they're more expensive than what the other BMs agreed to, which I think is fair.  But nothing says she has to change the dress for everyone just because her sisters pitched a fit.  (If it were me, I'd be asking the other bridesmaids, "Hey, we might be shaking up the dress choice a bit, would you be interested in looking for something else, or are you happy with what we've got?"  But then, apparently I'm too loosey goosey for her tastes.)

TheCranberry

Is anyone else wondering who the hell gets so bent out of shape about a dress?  Especially when I can't really tell the difference between any of them?  I mean really.

marissa_claire

Yeah, there is definitely more backstory that she's not giving in on.  There's no way her sisters quit over those dresses that look almost exactly the same!  

mkrupar

Gah! I cannot believe the OP in that thread. I posted my response, and walked away, came back and it's blown up because she just keeps responding making it orse. The dresses the MsOH want are almost the same as the others. I agree that there must be something more going on than just these dresses.

TheCranberry

MUD?  Troll?

deepcovejackie

I'm not being helpful either.  I've given up, because I assumed it was MUD. 

Also I started to want to slap her.

aerinpegadrak

I almost wonder if her sisters are pulling some sort of elaborate prank on her, or just trying to point out how unreasonable she's being.  It makes more sense than anything else...

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-moms-maids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c4f2bf8a-1fe7-42ec-a778-92de905825e7Post:74e06f5d-f00f-45cc-9b3b-0d94a5cada10">Re: Oh, Moms and Maids....</a>:
[QUOTE]I wonder the same thing also Aerin seeing as how the dresses they like are so similar to the ones she likes.<strong> FWIW, I don't really get vintage out of either style if that's what the poster is going for.</strong>
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]
I know!  If anything, the ones her sisters want have more of a classic look, the clean lines that she chose are VERY modern.

Beachy730

Those dresses are basically identical, so I really don't get it.  If they want to spend more for that dress why would she care?  Definitely more going on. 

Manwaithiel

I keep waiting for her to come back and say she's OCD about dresses. It wouldn't be the first time...

lalap69

Between "be humble", "get the spelling right" and "loosey-goosey" I'm hoping MUD.  JFC.  "I don't think they should get a say in what they wear"!?!?!  That girl is drama-rific.

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-moms-maids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c4f2bf8a-1fe7-42ec-a778-92de905825e7Post:cb624a1d-b39d-4138-874f-3ec667bc68e6">Re: Oh, Moms and Maids....</a>:
[QUOTE]She just posted the dresses they picked, and they're almost exactly the same.  Definitely other things going on here.  That or her sisters and mom are in some conspiracy to ruin her wedding, which I doubt very much.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
Am I the only person who sees the difference?  I would haaaaate being asked to wear the first dress she picked, but I think the two her sisters picked are so pretty!  I think it's the gathering on the top versus the lines on the first.

bablingbrooke

There are definitely differences, but not drastic ones.  Not ones that warrant this kind of craziness.  I remember from wedding dress shopping that the difference between a straight and sweetheart neckline can make all the difference in the world, and for that reason alone I like the sisters' choice better.

bdulli13

Is it wrong that I want to write back, "You're right. We are criticizing you. And judging you. It didn't start out that way, but now, yes. We're criticizing you for being a crazy bridezilla with a 'ME! ME! ME' attitude who insults her family, and doesn't consider anyones feelings other than her own."

What a nut.

lalap69

Yeah, I think that's my issue, brooke.  It's a more flattering version of the original dress, so I don't get why OP is digging her heels in.  She gets the look she wants, her BMs don't have to wear dresses they feel ugly in.

You know, OP commented that her sisters were the thin ones...  I wonder if the issue is that she doesn't want her sisters to look good so she can feel like the thin one for once??

bablingbrooke

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-moms-maids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c4f2bf8a-1fe7-42ec-a778-92de905825e7Post:5b66d265-49ce-4143-914b-f4705ab6e9ac">Re: Oh, Moms and Maids....</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it wrong that I want to write back, "You're right. We are criticizing you. And judging you. It didn't start out that way, but now, yes. We're criticizing you for being a crazy bridezilla with a 'ME! ME! ME' attitude who insults her family, and doesn't consider anyones feelings other than her own." What a nut.
Posted by bdulli13[/QUOTE]
That would not be wrong.

megk8oz

Um ... I like the dresses her sisters picked way better, to be perfectly honest ... in the right color, I actually would cut and wear one of those 2 again.

And yeah, I stayed out of that. After all the drama I had with my sisters, there was no way I could walk into that thread and stay rational.

If I seriously drove 1 or both of my sisters to the point of sending me a PP presentation email on why they hate the dress I picked so much and my mother was threatening to not attend the wedding, you'd better believe that would mean I'd been so horrible leading up to that moment that I would have already gotten multiple phone calls from my mother telling me to stop being a heinous bitch (Those would be the exact words) and some lecture about how messed up my "perspective on life" was to be concluded with the phrase "I did not raise you to be such a self-absorbed brat".

I'm finding it very hard to believe these dresses are the sole source of all of the issues between her and her sisters. And if they actually are the only thing causing this much  ... well, then I want a camera crew in that house at Thanksgiving, I feel the world is being denied some awesome reality TV.

aerinpegadrak

You SHOULD post, Meg.

trix1223

I think OP has earned my line::

"Listen, cookiepuss.  Lose the attitude.  Now let's talk about things that really matter."