CN: Best man, who originally wanted to come solo to our very small wedding is now throwing a fit because there is no room for his new girlfriend.
Looonnnnnggggg version: FI's BM is a cool enough guy, but a TOTAL womanizer. When FI asked him to be his BM and the planning began, we asked if he'd want to bring anyone special, or a guest in general. At the time he actually wanted to come solo (even though we live/wedding will be a state away) because he figured he'd have better odds with my single friends.
Fast forward to today, exactly 6 months from the wedding, and now he has found "the one" and is throwing a huge fit and really laying into FI because we said she can't come. Our wedding location (private room in a restaurant) literally holds 32 people- I've had family events in there before and 32 is really the max- so adding another seat is not an option. Neither is changing the location.
Knowing that etiquette says BP as well as OOT guests get to bring a guest we explained up front that we'd be happy to have him bring someone, but if he didnt want to, we were going to use his plus one and invite my single aunt (who I am close with; I'm named after he, she was the first person to hold me when I was born after my parents, she lives within walking distance of the wedding location etc etc) So, although formal invites havent gone out yet, I've talked to her and she's super excited to come.
He was fine with this til now. The girl- poor thing- doesnt have any idea what she's getting into. FI's BM has been seeing her for a few weeks- but just went out on a secret date with another friend of mine 2 nights ago (!!). He's a chronic cheater. Example: he has 3 kids.... 2 of whom were conceived when he was dating something OTHER than the baby momma.... ugh.
So I told him point blank that there just wasnt room and that if I allow his new flavor of the day, it would mean someone else.... who we actually KNOW, would get bumped. He said its ridiculous and blah blah blah and I'm afraid he's literally the type of guy who would stand FI up at the wedding. I know, I know- I've talked to FI about this a million times but they are childhood friends and idk... the friendship just wont die.
