how to choose your bridesmaids

Alli Llo

Great tips on choosing your bridesmaids    click the link!

freebread03

Your tips suck.  You know how to choose bridesmaids?  Those people who are nearest and dearest to you, not people who are "responsible" and will get tasks done when assigned (like you said).  You seem extremely superficial.

Oh, and it's against TK's terms of service to post links to your trashy video blog anyways.

freebread03

Boom. I was extra snarky bc I was KUI!

Alli Llo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c5360fe8-08c0-4b8d-b9a8-5e81010e7758Post:000010d0-20bf-4001-98f6-f30a21b66b9e">Re: how to choose your bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]Your tips suck.  You know how to choose bridesmaids?  Those people who are nearest and dearest to you, not people who are "responsible" and will get tasks done when assigned (like you said).  You seem extremely superficial. Oh, and it's against TK's terms of service to post links to your trashy video blog anyways.
Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]

<div>I think it's a given fact that bridesmaids should be those 'nearest and dearest to you'! Of course! but I was saying besides that fact. Some people may have a lot of friends that are dear to them and have trouble cutting it down to a certain number if they have to (say to make it even to the number of groomsmen) or something along those lines. I thought these points might make it easier for people to make decisions like that. I appreciate the feedback though. I should maybe work on stating things like what I just wrote in the beginning so people don't assume things. It was not meant to come across as superficial or trashy in any way, just a little advice if people found themselves caught in a web, because sometimes it can be hard to make decisions like this.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

Alli Llo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c5360fe8-08c0-4b8d-b9a8-5e81010e7758Post:6caa4f7d-ea1f-4abd-90b5-db6a649e1d48">Re: how to choose your bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: how to choose your bridesmaids : Lurk some more, honey. We don't care about even sides.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

<div>That was just an example. Some people may want it to be even, you never know. It's not completely even for our wedding so I'm with you on that, I dont care haha, but some may. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

AJuliaNJ

Darn! I wish I saw the original post.

Alli Llo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c5360fe8-08c0-4b8d-b9a8-5e81010e7758Post:8bd1547a-5fe4-4021-8761-7db0b595a7ea">Re: how to choose your bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]Darn! I wish I saw the original post.
Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]

<div>i guess it was deleted? oh well =/
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Alli Llo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c5360fe8-08c0-4b8d-b9a8-5e81010e7758Post:b57feba4-f9bc-476b-bb39-8704f3c26418">Re: how to choose your bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]Your post was deleted because - ONCE AGAIN - you are not allowed to advertise or plug yourself on The Knot. This is clearly stated in the Terms of Service to which you agreed when you joined. You were supposed to read them first. Your post was deleted because it violated those. Moving right along. Only a shallow rhymes-with-witch would make numbers more important than friends. When REAL friends look at their wedding albums on their 20th anniversaries they see the loving faces of friends in the pictures of their wedding party. They remember how wonderful it was to have those people beside them that day.  They don't count heads to see how many folks were in the photo, and calculate bride vs. groom ratios. Did you watch the wedding of the 20th century, also known as the royal wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer? Diana had seven attendants - five bridesmaids and two pages.  Charles had his two brothers.  This had nothing to do with the failure of their marriage. Go somewhere else to give your lousy advice. It's not wanted here, since it's inaccurate, even if it was within the rules - which, again, it is not.
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</div><div>I honestly don't know why you feel the need to attack me. If you read what I just posted earlier, I DONT care about numbers either! We're not having the same number of guys and girls in our wedding! I DID say before it is <strong>of course</strong> the ones who are nearest and dearest to you! The ones close to your heart! I thought that that was a <u>given fact</u> and did not need to be stated, but clearly I should have stated that because people assume that because i didn't say it, it's not a part. And you know what they say when you assume. Im not saying pick girls <em>just </em>based on responsibilty and numbers, that's dumb! It was an example that maybe IF there were brides that DID care about numbers this might help them choose one girl over an another, and that doesn't necessarily make those women "shallow rhymes with witch"es as you would like to refer to them as, which is not nice. You guys act as if I said only choose responsible people. If you did watch the video, I mention they should be your close friends/family who have always been there for you and you can depend on, friends/family that can make you laugh and be there for you, and to just have fun and be happy. I did mention you may want girls that can be responsible and plan things out so it's less chaotic for the other girls and so they can work well together for example, (JUST another example) if you have a bunch of girls that arent necessarily all in the same "group" of friends. That might help them come together if someone or a more than one have the personalities to plan things out versus girls you may have that are more impulsive and don't like to plan. Stop focusing on one thing that you heard that you didn't agree on. This advice does not apply to everyone, and that's okay. If you don't agree with me, totally fine, but you do not know anything about me you should not jump to conclusions (especially when i stated facts) calling me a "shallow rhymes with witch". You girls should take a step back. I've been nothing but respectful and even appreciative of your not so nice words. Everyone does not have to agree on everything, that's what makes the world go round, but there is a fine line on constructive critisism and being a plain old bully. Hope everyone can become ladies and have a happy day <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

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