Help! What to do with all these little girls??

cochran68

Hi there, my fiance and I are getting married in May.  We have 7 nieces ages 5-14 that we would really like to include in the ceremony in some way.  We thought the 5 yr old and possibly the two 8 yr olds could be flower girls (they're dying for that job) but I am unsure how to fit in the rest of them.  I think maybe one or two of the girls could do a reading during the ceremony, but I was hoping some of you could offer some creative ideas about other jobs/responsibilities/parts some of the girls could be a part of.  Thanks so much!

bablingbrooke

7 kids are too many.  They dont' all need jobs in the wedding.  Working at someone else's wedding is no fun.  Let them attend as guests.

stina93446

They don't all need to be in the wedding, but if you must, they can be bridesmaids. Being a bm is not hard to do.

Robyn5298

My goodness that's a lot of girls! 

If you really want to involve all of them here are some ideas: flower girls, readers, train carriers (if your dress has a train).  I also think they're young enough that they would enjoy being guest book attendants or responsible for handing out programs.  Those jobs are usually no fun for grown ups but I think they make kids feel important.

It might be cute to get each of them a special wrist corsage or something else to designate them as "special".  I bet they'd like that!

nhelene

If you're having a Catholic or similar ceremony where gifts will be presented, you could have them do that. 

If possible try to talk to them one at a time, telling them certain things you might need done at the wedding and asking if they want to help.  At 11-14 I would have been gung ho about being a reader or handing out programs, but I know a lot of girls who wouldn't be. 

mbcdefg

I think you're better off not giving them jobs at all. Trying to wrangle 7 small girls on your wedding day (no matter how well-behaved they are) sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen.
 
If you are really set on having them all in the ceremony, I'd personally just ask their parents to dress them in something nice, and have them all walk down the aisle together as part of the processional. Maybe holding small bouquets or pomanders, and the smallest ones could scatter petals if you want. If you have a program, call them "Child Attendants" or just list them under "Wedding Party." Or even "Flower Girls." They could just go sit with their parents in the audience once they walk down the aisle, and they don't have to be part of the recessional.

trix1223

I'm with Mrs. Jesse on this.  7 is an awful lot of little girls.  I'd have them as guests at the wedding, and make sure to take a couple of adorable photos with them on wedding day.

aerinpegadrak

That has me on edge just thinking about it.  There's no faster way to turn your wedding into a circus than to try to include too many children.  I'm with the others, that's just way too much.  Maybe you can plan a special get-together with them all before the wedding (a sleepover, a pizza party, a trip to the zoo, something like that), but I'd let them just attend the wedding as guests.

marissa_claire

The older ones can do things like pass out programs, attend gifts and guest book and pass out the getaway stuff (bubbles or whatever).  That's what we're doing!

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]The older ones can do things like pass out programs, attend gifts and guest book and pass out the getaway stuff (bubbles or whatever).  That's what we're doing!
Posted by marissa_claire[/QUOTE]
I dislike your theme of the day of "putting people to work" as a means of including them...

Wrkn925

Hand out programs
serve cake?? Maybe 14yo? Could be disaster.
Hand out corsages
Attend guest book
Put big kids in charge of wrangling little kids?

I personally like giving them a wrist corsage and telling them they are special guests.  Surely their attention spans couldn't support at big job, and I'm sure they'd rather be free to roam for the day.