Wife of the Best Man

elmulvey

Oh goodness...where to start.  Ok, so the wife of the best man, although I am friendly with her and one would say we are friends; we arent close enough that she is a bridesmaid.  However, the other "friends" in that group are all in the wedding somehow.  Fiance does not want readings at our short but sweet ceremony.  What do I do with her?  I feel like I have to do something,  I was thinking of having her be reception coordinator, to make sure all at reception goes off without a hitch? 

suz62984

She should be a guest. That is an honor too.  If you decide to have her as a reception coordinator make sure to ask how much she will charge for this since it is a PAID JOB and not an honor.

willowprincess

i am in a very similiar situation. the way i figured it, she doesn't neccessarily need a job to do. however, she can still be included in several of the 'bridesmaid' type activities, such as getting ready with you, sitting at the bridal table (since she is married to the guy) and possibly helping out with the bridal shower. this is what i'm doing. hope it helps.

emilyinchile

Huge yes on inviting her (and all WP SOs) to the RD and having all WP members sit with their dates. I'm sure that's all she's expecting - I would actually be kind of weirded out if DH's friend's FI asked me to be a BM out of the blue.

CA2MT4EveR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wife-of-man?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c558eee3-c5d1-4f5a-ab9b-b42dd0aa499cPost:b44a6156-c903-4e80-acbc-6ec2fca755b4">Re: Wife of the Best Man</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wife of the Best Man : I disagree. I do not want to meet all of my DH's best friend's wedding guests, nor would I feel honored by doing so. I'd say yes as a favor, but I would secretly roll my eyes at the bride who thought that just because our husbands were friends I particularly wanted to be doing that favor. Just invite her as a guest and be done with it.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

This. Why do people think everyone and their mother need a "job" as an "honor"?  Telling people to sign a guest book, which is pretty self explanatory, is not fun!