Is she or isn't she my MOH?

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My best friend of 6 years was going to be my MOH. We had a huge fight, where she dropped out of the wedding party.  After several months we are on speaking terms again. She told me she really missed me. Now I'm not sure if I should talk to her about this or not. During that time I got close with another one of my friends that I was thinking of asking to be a bridesmaid. Should I just move on and go choose dresses with my bridesmaids and just leave it alone? Or should I see if she can still be in the wedding party in some capacity?  Please advise.

aerinpegadrak

First, there's no reason you can't ask the other girl to join the party, regardless of what's going on with your MOH.  Uneven sides are fine.

You're still a ways out, so if you still want her in the wedding, ask her if she'll reconsider standing up next to you.  If you don't want her in the wedding for whatever reason (but I'd think long and hard about those reasons in the context of the long-term relationship rather than in the context of the six-hour party), then don't bring it up.

jerzmom114

First off, what was the fight about? Was it related to the wedding at all? If so, I wouldn't bring up the wedding at all for awhile. Second, you still have a long time to go before even thinking about BM dresses, so that shouldn't even be an issue at this point. Third, if you just recently starting "getting close" to this other girl, I would hold off a little before asking her to be a bridesmaid. ( Tons of people will tell you, relationships change so you should wait awhile before asking people)...That being said, I don't see why you would have to find out what is going on with your "possible MOH" before deciding on the rest of your BP. I would skip the wedding talk for now and try to work on your friendship with this woman first, forget the wedding talk /stressing over BP.

jerzmom114

and OP has disappeared....