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I need some advice

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I have been engaged for over 2 years and am just now starting to plan my wedding and hope to get married in May of 2011, and I am having a big issue with picking bridesmaids. I want my sister to be the maid of honor.. but I have 5 really close friends and a FSIL to think about as well. Is it too much to ask all 7 people? I just don't want any hurt feelings, and one of my friends already flipped out about not being asked to be in another friends wedding. I just really don't want to choose one friend over another because I love them all!
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    edited September 2010
    Don't let numbers dictate.  They're completely arbitrary.  What a shame that someone would be left out for that reason.  Ask all 7 if you want all 7 up there with you.  And no, your FI does not have to find 7 guys--the sides can be uneven.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    If you want 7 girls, that's fine. (Your FI does not need 7 groomsmen to match.)

    You could also just have your sister and FSIL to keep it family-only. Good friends will understand.

    Don't pick someone just because she'd flip out otherwise. If you are close to someone, ask them. Otherwise, they will have to get over it. A person who goes beserk over not being asked to be a bridesmaid is not a true friend.

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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    Ditto PPs.

    Having 7 BMs is perfectly fine, but of course don't pick people simply to avoid drama.
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  • eb78eb78
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    Thanks for the advice everyone! I think I am just gonna start with the planning and figure out the bridesmaids in a few months once I have the important stuff done. I may just have the 2 sisters if I feel there is drama going on with friends.
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  • saxy414saxy414
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    edited September 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_need-advice-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c7a03724-1574-467c-953d-f54fb2e0aad8Post:85233cbe-f44d-497c-84a1-3c26a8e87dc8">Re: I need some advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for the advice everyone! I think I am just gonna start with the planning and figure out the bridesmaids in a few months once I have the important stuff done. I may just have the 2 sisters if I feel there is drama going on with friends.
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    Good choice.  Just avoid talking about it for a few months.  If asked, it's perfectly fine to say that you're in the early planning stages (which is true) and you haven't made any concrete decisions.  Then change the subject.

    Edit--also, not that there is any huge difference between having 6 or having 7 BMs, but your FSIL could stand on your FI's side, as well. 
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